I forgot that it’s my mega week so no big info dump this time. Instead I bring a question: how do you practice gender self-care? Do you have any activities or rituals that make you feel more comfortable in your gender? Painting my nails and taking care of my hair are the most consistent ones. These shouldn’t even be considered gendered activities by society, but I missed out on having long hair and painted nails when I was younger because of my assigned gender, so doing them now feels validating and gives me confidence.
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Going to get my permit (again) today, hopefully license by the end of July if not sooner because I’ve got gay shit I wanna do.
By the end of summer I will be a car driving gay. I’ll have a job, hit my savings goal (Although I have to buy a car so it won’t last long at that number), my one year hrt anniversary will be coming up. I’ll be in a good state and a city instead of bumfuck nowhere. If things work out I’ll get to have two bucket list experiences I’ve been wanting.
god what a time. This time next year I’m hoping to be in such a good spot.
i’m so happy for you! car driving gay is such a great position to be in, you get so many friends and the only price is driving them places
Next year you’ll be in a better spot! You already climbed up. You’ll keep climbing.
fucking love shaving my legs and arms
funny side effect of being trans woman: After decades of my life spent not being a girl and living in total jealously of women, I routinely cannot believe misogyny is a real thing. Like, logically I know that many people genuinely hate women, but emotionally I actually struggle to believe it’s true. I can hear people say explicitly misogynist things and all I can think is “there’s no way he actually thinks that, right? that’s just a bold statement for attention, he can’t genuinely believe that” and no matter how many times I tell myself “no they genuinely think that” I just emotionally don’t believe it. Women are obviously so much better than men, right? those are just sour grapes 🙄
Being masc presenting my mom and sibling like taking me to appointments with them, office ladies defer to me with greater respect and help us more. All to say that’s some whack shit fr, my size is also useful for fending off predators because I’m a hippo you need to remember this reader 🦛
Working outside is soooo pretty, the sky, the water, the trees. Idk everything looks so beautiful and detailed and rich.
The only thing stopping me from trying to order prog even though the kind ladies of hexbear already tried to help me is that if my feminisation speeds up more I’ll really really have no way of hiding from my parents. I can’t deal with that shit on top of everything I’m already dealing with.
I don’t know what to do. I should not alter my transition timelines for other people. I don’t feel safe but I’m probably safe (I doubt my parents will kill me). But it still leaves the problem of taking more psychic damage. I got enough of that already.
Speaking of the move we’ve got multiple people interested in the house, doing showings next week.
Ok so I need to calm tf down and analyse rationally. I overestimated myself. I should have just stuck to learning physics shit (aka my actual subject) and never gotten involved with master’s level machine learning.
It’s not my field, expertise or passion. I can’t be the master of everything (pun intended)!
Gonna try to bake again tonight—Chewy Earl Grey Sugar Cookies
NYT Cooking staff will be spared in the coming revolution if they turn out well
at the moment my gender care is mostly making art of my fursona. just finished cross stitching a pixel sprite of it and am so happy just looking at it ^_^
is your fursona in your profile picture? if so it’s very cute!
yes it is aaa thanks (that was my first ever commission by an artist named aquapolis) (≧▽≦)
Okay it’s been a week since I was absolutely sure I got myself fired, and instead I’m getting even more responsibilities at work. I’m manifesting now. I’ve decided I’m not going to get in trouble, and I’m the main character and the universe will listen to me.
I love stumbling into queer spaces. I joined a server for a niche jrpg series I really like and it seems like everyone there is queer in some way.
Does this site remove blatant transmisogyny? /srs
Oh wow I missed all that nonsense
transphobia
Like you should genuinely get site banned if you describe people online recognizing trans women are more oppressed then cis women as a “dangerous trend”. What in the terf rhetoric are we upvoting here.
I am complaining here in hopes a mod with pull sees this and takes SOME action, this is not a “struggle sesh”, this is disgusting.
Yeah, report it
I did, nothing has happened. There’s only one mod in that comm, who’s last post is from two years ago.
Also admins are the only ones who can siteban, do they get user reports?
It has fortunately been removed now, but that was such a trainwreck of a post. Literally not a single truthful sentence in there, it would have been impossible to handle that subject in a worse way and then several cis dudes show up in the replies and say they are “here to listen” because obviously they do not know better. Horrible.
Honestly I just latched onto that one line so hard because of how ridiculous and terfy it is. I didn’t look at much of the rest of it. Pisses me off that was allowed to go u checked, 50+ upvotes, no one removes it.
Yea I saw that too, I hope they actually did check back with the thread later to see all our problems with it. Also thank you for having the discussion with the other user in the comments, I really didn’t have the patience yesterday.
OP made a selfcrit post after so I think she felt some level of bad, I still don’t like her response to what I said though. But I didn’t persue it any further. I know you were also pretty bothered by the post so maybe you want to look at it.
It was horrible though, pisses me off to see rhetoric like that on this site of all places. And that it was just allowed to sit there for 16+ hours, get upvotes, whole thing.
Pisses me off that was allowed to go u checked, 50+ upvotes, no one removes it.
I never finished GAM so I didn’t want to reply, but I considered upvoting just to promote someone else refuting the post (which I stopped reading after the part about India…)
Yeh, i have replied to her self crit post, i think there’s some stuff that she still just doesn’t fully grasp. And it’s tiring. I mean, the exchange with the other person in the original thread was also tiring, but ultimately it turned out to largely be a misunderstanding and motivated by concern for a loved one, so it ended on a peaceful note. I am actually considering to do my own effortpost take on the GAM now, it has been an important influence for me and everything, but idk when i have the spoons for that.
Cool, I’d been checking it to see if there was any discussion but I’m glad you responded to it. Your response was spot on and I’m glad someone else was able to, I’m not always the best at that type of thing.
I think that’d be really cool if you did, i think it should be addressed but I’m not the right person for it. Understand the spoons though take care of yourself :meow-hug:
The feeling of having to shave my fucking legs again
Disgusting
