I forgot that it’s my mega week so no big info dump this time. Instead I bring a question: how do you practice gender self-care? Do you have any activities or rituals that make you feel more comfortable in your gender? Painting my nails and taking care of my hair are the most consistent ones. These shouldn’t even be considered gendered activities by society, but I missed out on having long hair and painted nails when I was younger because of my assigned gender, so doing them now feels validating and gives me confidence.
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The only thing stopping me from trying to order prog even though the kind ladies of hexbear already tried to help me is that if my feminisation speeds up more I’ll really really have no way of hiding from my parents. I can’t deal with that shit on top of everything I’m already dealing with.
I don’t know what to do. I should not alter my transition timelines for other people. I don’t feel safe but I’m probably safe (I doubt my parents will kill me). But it still leaves the problem of taking more psychic damage. I got enough of that already.
Ive heard mixed reports about starting it early. Theres evidence that it might be beneficial to start fairly quickly, but I know some anecdotes from peoples own transition that say they started prog “too soon” and that stopped development and data that suggested its better to wait. The standard is start 1 or 2 years after E if you want a different excuse.
If this happens you can stop and if prog is what stopped them growing out, they’ll start again.
What excuse can I give to myself when I already know the unambiguous truth …
There’s too much conflicting statements out there so the ideal case is to choose the null hypothesis.
I don’t know what the null hypothesis is so I’m going to go with wanting to start prog to improve my emotional experience. But the parent issue lies like a guillotine above my head. All I need is one more year ahhhh. Then it’d all be fine!
Null for this would be WPATH recommendations, right?
Going by the principle of statistics, the actual null hypothesis would be to just take it at a randomly selected timing. But woath guidelines could be a decent prior (their conservative estimates notwithstanding).
Still one more year for you :meow-hug: how long on hrt? I thought you were already a good bit in
1 more year, but you’re here so it’s not too difficult.
16 months
Aw stop it, you’re making me blush.
God damn girl, 2 and a half years of boymoding on E. God speed o7
At some point it does become comical to grow boobs on purpose yet keep them secret.
It is a little bit of a funny position to be in
I grow them for me, not others 🤷♀️
Kinda funny me saying that given how I used to feel about that argument back in high school…
This is true, and also, it is really funny to exist as a “man” with an ever-increasing chest
Prog will make your breasts grow some, but if you don’t feel secure about starting it now you can wait. There’s no real time limit.