International Transgender Day of Visibility (TDoV) is a day for celebrating the lives of transgender people, recognizing the contributions we make to society and rallying against the discrimination we face. TDoV also functions as a counterpart to the International Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDoR)[1]; with TDoR being a somber occasion and TDoV having a more celebratory nature.

For this week, in observation of TDoV, I invite you all, the posters in our community to write a little bit about the celebration of trans lives.

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  1. TDoR is observed on November 20th and memorializes those of us who’s lives were stolen by transphobic violence, particularly trans women of color. TDoR was initially founded in 1999 in remembrance of Rita Hester, Chanelle Pickett, and Monique Thomas, three black trans women who were murdered in the Boston area. ↩︎

  • gaystyleJoker [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
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    18 days ago

    HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

    if you have a preferred week please tell me

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  • RION [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    18 days ago

    Yo I got ma’am’d at the grocery store? And I wasn’t wearing makeup or anything??

    Older ladies at the money order counter truly are my strongest soldiers

  • FourteenEyes [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    20 days ago

    Went to the local gay bar for their trans day of visibility fundraising event with my nb partner tonight, we had a good time and they even bid on and won the movie night basket. We’re gonna make a night of it lol.

    Love all of my trans comrades on Hexbear. You make this place wonderful.

  • gwysibo [they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    19 days ago

    Tomorrow is also the 4th annual Mira Bellwether Buy a Trans Woman a Pizza Day*, for all the gals who don’t feel like being visibly trans or just love pizza* <3

    * or other food of her choice!

  • BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    19 days ago
    bottom dysphoria, kinda shitty

    So apparently they mapped all the nerves of the clit, and that’s great for cis women, but fuck it makes me sad seeing headlines everywhere and reading the comments of women talking about anatomy I don’t have and will never have. Being reminded of all the parts. Fuck me I’m sad.

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      19 days ago
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      Theres a lotta nerves down there post bottom surgery and I swear HRT changes some shit or something in that area anyway even before.

      Its definitely okay to feel sad and dysphoric but dont knock the benefits of modern surgery and HRT.

      • BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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        19 days ago
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        Yea, I mean I know there is and I’m not knocking srs. And yea even 6 months hrt I’m noticing changes down there. Its a bit hard to describe, because I don’t necessarily want all of the reproductive system anyway (don’t want kids) but its still a bit sad to me I don’t have it… and obviously still distressing I don’t have srs now and I do worry about being able to get it eventually. I should have good chances to get it but nothing in life is guaranteed. And I just wish I was born with it. But thank you I appreciate it.

  • XiaCobolt [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    20 days ago

    I forgot that Fallout New Vegas let you pick hair color of a R G B 0 to 255 color chart. I started my character I was talking about. A trans lesbian. Settled on the name “Cobalt” and gave her Cobalt Blue hair (Green 71, Blue 171)

  • sodium_nitride [she/her, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    20 days ago

    catgirl-heart transgender day of visibility!

    Even on my worst days I’d rather be myself than mutilate my existence to “fit in”!

    Every single painful experience I’ve ever been through, I’d go through it again to protect whatever little happiness I collected up. Ain’t much at all, but it’s still mine! (And for you kris-love sans-wink )

    Wow, I’m in a positive mood these days. Funny how that happens when you don’t get kicked repeatedly in the crotch by random nonsense for a while. catgirl-smug

  • RION [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    19 days ago

    A friend let me down last Friday and I know it’d be the gracious thing to accept the apology and say it’s okay, but I don’t want to. I really hate being shunted to the side when more important things come up. Think I’ll ice her out a little longer. Already relapsed pretty severely so not like there’s much further to fall in terms of poor behavior…

      • RION [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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        19 days ago

        Because I’m frustrated and mad at her and perhaps letting her sit with that will yield some introspection on how much my feelings actually matter to her

        Intellectually I know it’s unnecessary and catty… But I always play the part of understanding and reconciliation. Surely I can indulge a little?

        • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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          19 days ago

          It probably wont feel as good as you imagine it will, and worse will almost certainly not lead to introspection vrs just saying “hey, I feel like I don’t matter to you when you ice me out and youve done that to me a lot lately”

          Also you dont like have to accept an apology

          • RION [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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            18 days ago

            Yeah truth be told it doesn’t feel that good atm.

            Can you not accept an apology and still be friends? That’s never really come up for me before. I always forgive people

              • RION [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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                18 days ago

                I dunno. I guess I’m caught up in what it means to accept an apology vs forgiving someone. All my forgiveness hitherto has been “it’s all okay” and trying to forget what happened. Ugh I’m overcomplicating it. She’s my friend and I care about her and I want to keep being friends but I know I should tell her that this hurt me. I guess I can wait till then and see how I feel

          • RION [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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            18 days ago

            I know that’s the right thing to do… I’m gonna think about how I want to bring it up and talk about it in therapy tonight as well.

  • BountifulEggnog [it/its, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    19 days ago

    I know it’s tomorrow but I don’t expect anyone I’m out to will say anything about it to me, kinda dumb to be upset/whatever about it but it would be nice. I mean I obviously don’t blame anyone and don’t expect anyone will but idk. I do wish they’d recognize my bravery about coming out to them. A couple did at the time though which was nice. Idk.