International Transgender Day of Visibility (TDoV) is a day for celebrating the lives of transgender people, recognizing the contributions we make to society and rallying against the discrimination we face. TDoV also functions as a counterpart to the International Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDoR)[1]; with TDoR being a somber occasion and TDoV having a more celebratory nature.
For this week, in observation of TDoV, I invite you all, the posters in our community to write a little bit about the celebration of trans lives.
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TDoR is observed on November 20th and memorializes those of us who’s lives were stolen by transphobic violence, particularly trans women of color. TDoR was initially founded in 1999 in remembrance of Rita Hester, Chanelle Pickett, and Monique Thomas, three black trans women who were murdered in the Boston area. ↩︎
A friend let me down last Friday and I know it’d be the gracious thing to accept the apology and say it’s okay, but I don’t want to. I really hate being shunted to the side when more important things come up. Think I’ll ice her out a little longer. Already relapsed pretty severely so not like there’s much further to fall in terms of poor behavior…
Why be cruel?
Because I’m frustrated and mad at her and perhaps letting her sit with that will yield some introspection on how much my feelings actually matter to her
Intellectually I know it’s unnecessary and catty… But I always play the part of understanding and reconciliation. Surely I can indulge a little?
Why not just to talk to he about how you feel? You’ll only breed resentment this way
I know that’s the right thing to do… I’m gonna think about how I want to bring it up and talk about it in therapy tonight as well.
It probably wont feel as good as you imagine it will, and worse will almost certainly not lead to introspection vrs just saying “hey, I feel like I don’t matter to you when you ice me out and youve done that to me a lot lately”
Also you dont like have to accept an apology
Yeah truth be told it doesn’t feel that good atm.
Can you not accept an apology and still be friends? That’s never really come up for me before. I always forgive people
Would you want to be friends if you dont forgive and let that resentment simmer forever?
I dunno. I guess I’m caught up in what it means to accept an apology vs forgiving someone. All my forgiveness hitherto has been “it’s all okay” and trying to forget what happened. Ugh I’m overcomplicating it. She’s my friend and I care about her and I want to keep being friends but I know I should tell her that this hurt me. I guess I can wait till then and see how I feel