• TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPM
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    You have a point; there shouldn’t be any excuse for assaulting somebody. The patriarchal standards hurt us all and make the world less safe.

    Also, you’re not a “moid.” Fuck that word

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        If you smush “female android” together you get “femoid”, and then removing the fe- you shorten it to “moid” for the male version.
        It’s obviously derogatory and it’s meant to mean something akin to “someone with [all looks and] no brain”.
        I’m actually surprised Urban Dictionary doesn’t have a better definition of femoid, but they do of moid.

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            Bimbo/himbo are about types of people with aesthetics and cultural signifiers. Moid/femoid are just slurs against men or women that a person of the opposite gender doesn’t like

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              Yeah himbo doesn’t really have the same bite. A lot of women even like a good himbo. I overall prefer a little intellectualism but I can go for a good himbo too. I’ve mostly heard it associated with Brendan fraisers roles in his youth (George of the jungle / the mummy) It gives golden retriever energy or one of those gym rats that’s always telling the other dudes their muscles look great.

        • to expand on this, I used the term moid in my original comment because I could see how my entire argument could be oversimplified to “not all men are assholes”, which is something moids say all the time when women complain about men.

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            Don’t apologize for things outside your control. As a species, we are still trying to outgrow the tribalism, aggression, and desire for dominance that helped our ancestors survive. Stand firm against the sophists, they exploit those old instincts rather than encourage us to rise above them.

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          I prefer to not call those people moids. The whole term is toxic and does more to reinforce gender roles than oppose it. It’s not worth using at all.

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              My experience has been that language signifies specific attitudes, attracting people with those attitudes. The type of people that “moid” attracts are more likely to view men as not just cultural problematic or practically dangerous, but as people unworthy of equal respect. The thing about people who dehumanize a large social group like that is that they are usually willing to dehumanize people for other reasons, including people they simply dislike. Those sort are rarely fun to hang out with.

              The people who use that term also tend to have more regular exposure to people with other awful attitudes. People who are casually transphobic, racist, and “edgy” in a way that goes beyond jokes. In short, 4chan/Twitter regulars who would rather expose themselves to hateful brainrot than hang out in “coddling safe spaces” that aren’t astroterfed by Nazis.

              Basically, toxic memes attract toxic people, and unlike pepe, there is no good buried under that term worth reclaiming. There are plenty of insults for shitty men that aren’t just genderswapped misogyny.