No, the worst thing they can say is “EW!” which happened to me once.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet anyway.
Man I came in thinking about applying for jobs, that would be devastating
they could even get angry and violent
This is the true worst answer
That’s bad, but I can imagine much worse.
Yes. They can simply ignore you, as if you’re not even there, even if you insist. Then, after several contact attempts, with different people, you realize you’re dead and condemned to roam around that same house for eternity, without being able to ever interact with anyone or anything.
“Even if you insist”
What in the incel shit is that? You don’t insist on what another person should feel about you.
What? Someone acts as if you’re not present in the room. You try to attract their attention and nothing, so you try again a few times. This is insisting.
If they say no they were probably always going to say no, and you were wasting your mental energy picturing a fantasy where they might say yes. What if your waiting to ask means that they wanted to ask you, but thought YOU might say no so they are in the same loop. Or they hadn’t considered it at all, but would say yes if you ask. No one likes uncertainty, so remove it.
Them saying no means you can move to the next potential. The worst thing we do is create simulations in our head of a perfect match, when in reality there’s lots of very good matches out there, possibly better matched in some ways than the one you’re obsessed with.
No one likes uncertainty, so remove it.
Chops off testicles
No one likes uncertainty
I’d say most people love uncertainty.
It’s why a whole lot of people do not go to the doctor when they have some ailment because uncertainty is preferred over negative outlooks.
It’s why many people avoid looking at the news despite knowing what’s being said will affect them sooner or later.
It’s why neither partner wants to confront the reality the relationship is failing, instead choosing to go on as usual until it crashes and burns.
And it’s why people don’t ask others out, as keeping the illusion you had a chance is preferred over knowing you never even had one. Ignorance is bliss after all.
I don’t think that’s loving uncertainty as much as it’s the easier route to take.
But if the easier route results in more uncertainty than the difficult route, and people keep choosing it, people are at the very least preferring uncertainty over difficulty, aren’t they?
That much is true, sure. People don’t usually like to stray far from the familiar, and if that means continuing to fantasize vs. taking the plunge and seeing what happens, that’s what they’ll do. Or with the rest of your examples, stick with what they’ve done in the past, even though they know where it leads, because doing different means the unknown.
And I’m preaching while not always practicing myself, it’s human nature to feel comfortable. But I have found that most of the time if I force myself to get past the worry and fear and just do the thing, it tends to work out fine and not be as bad as I thought it would be.
My own psychological trick is to commt to get the “no.” I decide I’m going to rule out yes. So if they tell me no, then I’ve succeeded.
I still feel dejected, but it works in getting me to ask.
That’s a lot of gymnastics
Hence why I’m often of the habit of waiting until I feel comfortable and safe with the person before it gets to that point.
Granted, out of all the people I’ve been with, I have only ever asked one of them out. I’m aware that I have frustrated some people by not asking, but I was never at that point and if it was that important to them then they should have asked instead.
The second best thing they can say is no
The worst thing they can say is “HELP! SOMEONE HELP! CALL THE POLICE!” While filming you and posting it on social media to their 150 000 followers. Thats the worst thing they can say.
As someone whose brain reaches for rejection sensitive dysphoria by default, you really don’t have to let it devastate you.
Most rejection is rarely directly personal, and if it is, probably for the best anyway
Right in my RSD
