• VitoRobles@lemmy.todayEnglish
    3·
    2 months ago

    Age 10-20 was miserable. Hormones. Parents. Bullies in high school. Difficult to find work. College struggle and debt.

    Age 20-30 was better but still shit. Welfare. Homelessness. Police harassment. Juggling three jobs to pay rent.

    Age 30-40 was so much better. Life was in order. Wife and I both leveled up our education and got a career. Traveled for the first time (Hawaii then Japan). Had kids.

    Age 40 - life is getting better. Feels like the best days still happening.

  • stoly@lemmy.world
    2·
    2 months ago

    Very little of my life was worth living until I was in my 30s. It was specifically due to changing societal attitudes towards homosexuality that allowed me to finally live in peace.

  • GhostFace@lemmy.today
    2·
    2 months ago

    Midtwenties and it feels over in a lot of ways. The majority of friends I’ve made growing up or in college are gone. People have spread out and started focusing on their own lives. Even people that I only ever knew online have began moving on.

    In a lot of ways this has been fine because I’ve just turned inward and started focusing on myself too, started being selfish about what I want. I miss seeing a lot of my friends in person rather than random texts or seeing their stories on snap.

    It’s very confusing at times because I enjoy being able to do whatever I want when I want without consulting anyone but I also miss having people to do things with.

    • UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.mlEnglish
      1·
      2 months ago

      Let people go. You cant hold onto them forever, even in the best of cases. I have people who i consider my best friends that I haven’t seen in years. Maybe never again.

      The river of life has many branches, we just floated down different ones. Dont take it personally.

  • Zoe@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    1·
    2 months ago

    My egg cracked a few weeks after I turned 29. My 30s are gonna be an interesting time for sure, but I can actually imagine a future for myself now!

  • Mister Neon@lemmy.world
    1·
    2 months ago

    I’m 40. I feel like my life is over. My career was destroyed by Trump and all this AI bullshit. I fear becoming an old man and not being able to afford basic life essentials.

  • radix@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1·
    2 months ago

    20s-30s: Time & energy, but no money.
    60s-70s: Money & time, but no energy.

    40-50s: Not enough of any of them.

    • tetris11@feddit.ukEnglish
      01·
      2 months ago

      I remember my 30th birthday well, I suddenly grew a six pack and backflipped onto a motorbike mounted onto a jetski and then moonwalked the 100m race faster than Jamiroquai on stilts

  • Couldbealeotard@lemmy.worldEnglish
    0·
    2 months ago

    Anyone who yearns for their life as child has developmental issues. I’m not trying to say that as a sick burn, I think it’s honestly sad and source of suffering for some people.

    • JamesBoeing737MAX@sopuli.xyzEnglish
      0·
      17 days ago

      Or their life is shitty, boring and full of useless/pointless demands. They wish they were still children, because they at least had some (fictional) purpuse.

      It’s sad. Most of us realize life has no point and some wish for the childish illusion.

      It’s similar to me wishing I was stupid, so I wouldn’t be burdened by the emotional consequences of opinions, thoughts and my negative perception of the world.

      Also: it might also be child abuse (as an adult, you can intellectualise your experience, which you couldn’t as a child).

      • Couldbealeotard@lemmy.worldEnglish
        1·
        16 days ago

        Doesn’t sound like an “or”, sounds like a developmental issue.

        I think it’s natural for everyone to go through a stage of questioning the meaning of life, but if your end answer is “I just wish I was a kid again/stupid so I don’t have to worry about it” then give failed to mature intellectually.

        I agree that it could be brought on by child abuse or other trauma. I’m not trying to place blame on the individual, everyone’s circumstance is different. Either way, I think it’s sad, and I hope those people find a way to improve.

    • lordbritishbusiness@lemmy.worldEnglish
      1·
      2 months ago

      It’s when you probably have your life in order and are comfortable with who you are. It’s a good time when you are most you.

      Though for those who haven’t got either of those, it’s probably not going to be a good time. I feel for those people, I know a few.

      I’m happy with myself in my 30’s it’s always nice to think of telling my younger self of the stuff I’ve done. British business the younger would be very surprised and absolutely jazzed about it.

  • WizardOfFrobozz@lemmy.ca
    01·
    2 months ago

    ITT: a bunch of “miserable” people who are way too comfortable and happy with their lives to fight back against what they claim is making them so (performatively) “miserable”