I’m kinda old at this point. I see ‘friends’ in two categories, people I see as a sort of extended family, and friends of location/convenience. The first category tends to be entirely queer socialists, whereas the rest are friends of friends, coworkers, most cishets, etc. Generally the second category of friend is very unreliable and not very useful to be around, but they do help pass the time in boring situations, basically.
It’s important as you grow older to focus on friends that materially help you and show up when you need them and sideline the others imo. Working with homeless people makes me realize how many queer people dont have friends that will help them in their time of need.
I’m kinda old at this point. I see ‘friends’ in two categories, people I see as a sort of extended family, and friends of location/convenience. The first category tends to be entirely queer socialists, whereas the rest are friends of friends, coworkers, most cishets, etc. Generally the second category of friend is very unreliable and not very useful to be around, but they do help pass the time in boring situations, basically.
It’s important as you grow older to focus on friends that materially help you and show up when you need them and sideline the others imo. Working with homeless people makes me realize how many queer people dont have friends that will help them in their time of need.