Yea yea I know, not all contradictions imply a fundamental error.
This line is currently in popular usage by online liberals who are forced to work through their 
as China ascends, as DPRK approaches normalization, as Iran demonstrates its regional force, as Ukraine inevitably loses, as the US murders and still loses, as Sahel states inch toward sovereignty. These contradictions are becoming more striking and difficult to hand-wave. And in the first phase of this dissonance, the reflex is to allow the dissonance no matter how deafening.
it’s also pretty standard conflict resolution/therapy shit
there is objective truth but the odds are one person was struck by omniscience and experienced it during a conflict and the other didn’t isn’t very high lol. so better to act as if all people experienced some form of truth through their own internal filtration system, validate any perceived harm, then move on to accountability from harm from actions there rather than fight about who is correct about their feelings.
It’s also a way to deal with stopping black & white thinking and trying to look at reality in a more objective way (ironically). Instead of thinking “i’m late, i’m gonna be fired” you can be like, well two things are true at once, “i’m late and feeling anxious and guilty about it” and also “in the past, my boss has never once been concerned about being late”. the feelings of anxiety and guilt are no less invalid, however they are not grounded in real danger.
unfortunately abusers will use every single tool at their disposal including ones that are benign in the hands of a trained expert, it just be like that. There you go, two things can be true at once