I feel a little alienated from my sisters sometimes and took forever to understand myself because I lack the standard narratives everyone seems to have. I never knew what was wrong with my life. Not even a little. I’m AuDHD and I grew up when Silence of the Lambs and Ace Ventura were coming out. I had a privileged, well-off childhood with early access to the internet and my parents told me that if I just kept acing math and science tests I’d be set for life. So I just got up in the morning, put on clothes society told me to put on, sat through school, and then went home and dissociated out of my body onto the internet. On the internet I got to be no one without a body, shitposting on 4chan (before /tttt/ existed, thank the sun) and then fark and then reddit.
I never picked girl characters in rpgs, but you know the one rpg character I really, really got into imagining myself as? My Forsaken (undead) WoW main. Because he was dead, and struggling to find some purpose in his undead existence.
Taking hormones shocked me to my core because I suddenly came alive and hadn’t even realized I was dead. I felt present in my body and feminine and they went together and felt completely right. Looking back on my life now, I didn’t feel like a girl trapped in the wrong body, I felt dead and absent and coped with it by being anon online. Life never forced me to reckon with myself and that feels embarrassing now.
Now I’m craving sisterhood and validation and being seen. But I’m well into middle age and I’m shackled to a house in the suburbs I sleepwalked into. I can be the woman I want to be but real growth is slow and I’m impatient. I keep vomiting my feelings at people like I am in this post (and people find it off-putting I think). Can anyone relate to my story?
Fuck, I need to watch I Saw The TV Glow, don’t I
Thanks, yeah oversharing is the way to put it and nice to know I’m not the only one doing it. And I’m getting comfortable with the idea that people online don’t have to be strangers
Im a stranger. But I dont have to be. You can hit me up in the dms if you wanna talk (no pressure) …about anything really.
Yeah ^^
FWIW I don’t even think calling it “oversharing” does it justice… I’m grateful you posted this, I’ve not substantially messaged or anything on hex for a while but I want to say it. Your sharing helped me here, as I always picture it, it’s like the world has this black hole of misery and need that no one can fix by themselves, or even without large collective effort. But we at least don’t have to be alone, or hurting alone…
It’s a valid social need… no lesser than any physical need like hunger, it’s a visceral thing and like all other human needs as a society and species right now we all enter this world needing, only to get gaslit and shamed instead. The Harlow monkey experiments (had to look up the name) come to mind… You needed to share, it was a good space to, and honestly I feel shared with (in a good sense)…
I’m glad it helped!
I feel better after sharing it, and am figuring out how people are social in these spaces