if you go on those bullshit anti BPD communities so many comments talk about how we cant handle shame and thats why we are pieces of shit like hello ?? nobody likes shame. of course theyre armchair diagnosing jason arday and saying he killed himself because he is a narcissist, as if ANYBODY should be expected to handle the media mobbing them???

fuck you

  • Renin [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    1 month ago

    I think self-care industrial compete has made it basically impossible to discuss mental health, in a healthy manner. All people do is parrot whatever they heard someone on TikTok say, something they cherry picked from a Wikipedia article etc.

    Ironically, I sincerely believe that, most people regurgitating this self-care slop would benefit a lot from DBT themselves. It’s not some miracle cure, but if I’m supposed to learn tolerance then so should everybody else, what’s the harm in including a light version of this in a public education program?

    Nobody has given me a good argument for why shouldn’t everybody be taught some Distress tolerance, Interpersonal skills, Emotional regulation and Mindfulness. So many people are high on this magical thinking that social skills are a waste of time and all we need is logical engineers and smart technicians, social sciences? That’s icky. That’s only for “broken people” or wӧmen. I always have to be on point, calm collective, beautiful looking, everything I say needs to be corroborated by multiple sources and even if I do there’s people who assume I don’t read any books. Even if I put effort into my looks people judge me for it. And I am not supposed to complain about any of this at all, because now I’m being seen as hysterical.

    • lilypad [she/her, it/its]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      1 month ago

      So many people are high on this magical thinking that social skills are a waste of time and all we need is logical engineers and smart technicians

      jesse-wtf I hate people like this. I have a terrible time with social skills and basically just bluff my way thru everything by failing to understand what’s happening around me and telling myself “ignorance is bliss” while I try not to cry. I get engineering. Engineering sucks. You cant use tech to fix social problems. You can’t engineer yourself out of a bad social situation (ok well maybe you can the-doohickey). Just. Ok yeah we need bridges that dont collapse, but like… Give me skills that matter!!! I wanna learn interpersonal skills!!! I wanna learn how to understand people. And not cry so often from simple things.