I wouldn’t dream of a allowing someone else to ‘help’ me cook in a home setting unless they were also professionals. I cannot share a kitchen with civilians. I cook for my parents fairly often and they always wanna help, they’re interested and I am usually teaching them recipes or neat techniques when im cooking. Which is fine, get a drink, have a seat and ask what im doing, but stay the fuck out of the way and I don’t want help cutting veggies, this is my meal that im making that I’m trying to impress you with and I want to be responsible for every single element.

At work i think I’m pretty surly, but I have learned my surl comes off well over the course of my life. I pull off loveable curmudgeon well. Ive been described as ‘ridiculously charming’ by our bartender which struck me as weird cause I’m really sarcastic, but I think i sell it well and at the same time i got used go being really sincere with compliments around my friends cause…a lot of our mutual friends died within a 3 year span from a double whammy of fent mostly but covid sometimes. I tell my friends I love them all the damn time. Ive just kinda gotten used to that and so my work compliments are usually stronger than most even if I hyperbolize, I have for sure used the line ‘thank you so much, you are the wind beneath my wings’ or recently with the odyssey ‘Chris Nolan should have made a movie about you instesd’ and a constant singing ‘There gooooes my hero!’. Which gives me a LOOOOOT of leeway for when im grumpy. Cause I call out bullshit just as quick as I compliment. I am blunt I both regards but I think just saying exactly ehat the problem is and how to fix it is just the only way to operate at a fast pace. I wish we didn’t have a semi open kitchen so I could swear more. Swearing really cushions the blow cause you csn emphasize being casual that way, sounds like less of a big deal. “Yo, gotta refire X, this one shit the bed. (Explaining what’s wrong with it while) so if we dont fuck that up this time we’re good!” I can pull that off in a way thst makes criticism clear but come through smooth. It’s a tone of voice thing. I reallt turn on the east coast accent when calling orders