Hey hey all! TW about surgery questions regarding SRS parts and stuff like that.
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I have a question that I don’t really know where else to ask. I have a specific set of dysmorphic concerns. Not everything kicks off the feelings, but some things always do.
One of the things that always triggers the feeling is testicles. I fucking hate having them, seeing them, feeling them. It’s easily among the worst (or tied for the worst) things to deal with. I’ve looked at the possibility of seeking an orchiectomy, but a very small part of me is afraid that doing something like that but not going for “full SRS surgery” will just cause people to treat me differently. The question is only becoming a bit more real lately to me now that I may have the opportunity to actually get the surgery in the coming year or two.
Maybe it’s a bit silly or whatever and I know gender and all of this is really complicated and more just up to us individually, but I guess I’m just curious what others think about all of this.
Has anyone done similar? How has it changed your dating life afterwards? Has it affected you in other ways? What kinda considerations are there for something like this?
Hey girl! I can’t answer the questions, but I might be able to add something as someone in the same boat.
I’m not on hrt (yet, fingers crossed) but after some discussion with my partner, looking into things, and taking a long look at what truly causes me dysphoria, I came to the same conclusion you have.
The girls have to go, every time I see them I die a little inside and every time I have to use compression underwear or tape to keep everything smooth I’m reminded my body doesn’t match my brain, but I still want to keep the centerpiece, as my spouse and I both want to continue utilizing things. My sex drive has always been low, and I kind of prefer giving pleasure to receiving, so we are confident we can make things work, and since I won’t be having dysphoria during intimate moments, I think things should even pick up a bit, especially once I’m on hrt and won’t hate my appearance in the mirror.
You are completely valid for only wanting an orchi, or even if you didn’t want to do any srs. I know several women who are years into their transition, some of whom have even hit their “transition goals”, who don’t have plans for full SRS.
A bit too into details: I was always a grower, and once the girls are gone I should be able to keep everything smooth and pleasant down under once I get an orchi, however everyone’s bodies are different and that’s just one of my personal goals. I can’t tell others what works for them or even what they might like. I’m sure you’ve given it plenty of thought!
Just don’t get in your head about what others might think and you’ll be much better off.
You got this!