Courtney (she/her/they)
Hello lovelies, I am a (trans)Woman who is still in the process of discovering herself!
I have been working up the courage to be who I am for so long, I am excited to be figuring things out.
Pre-HRT, pre-fashion-sense, and pre-confidence.
Any and all tips and advice from more experienced women are welcome!
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Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Hows the middle week for everyone!?English
0·8 days agoI only remembered because my partner has one from college chilling somewhere around here. You couod even practice on all the “to burn” shirts!
Lol I’m not sure where you live, but here in rural Ohio, smack in the middle (ish) of the US, I’d definitely consider this area a “backwards shithole”, compared to some many places. Then again, I still have access to gender affirming care even if I have to pay out of pocket, so I suppose I’m not bad off. Can’t imagine how much it must suck to live in some countries though…
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Hows the middle week for everyone!?English
0·8 days agoI’d be afraid I’d fuck something up and injure myself somehow but depending on how the next few weeks go, I might shoot you a DM to get in contact.
The most secure way I have is my signal account, I keep PIN turned on, only “new message” for a notification (idk if android has the same issue I phones had recently with signal notifications being stored but just in case…)
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Hows the middle week for everyone!?English
0·8 days agoI wouldn’t even know where to start there. I have extremely basic first aid knowledge and some nursing school knowledge I picked up from helping an old gf study for a couple years. So diy is basically Wild Magic to me
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•My outfit today!English
0·8 days agoIt’s great! I had a choice between this one and one that said “Trans Rights Are Human Rights” and someone else really wanted that one. I was already leaning toward this one since it fits my attitude perfectly. “If they don’t like it they can get fucked, this is who I am and their phobias won’t change that”
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•My outfit today!English
0·8 days agoI’ve never had sensitive skin before, so it’s odd. I’m sure I just need to power through. I got a little unsure about it and the prickly feeling on my legs was killing me so I just used depilatory cream again…
When they get long enough to use the epilator again I’ll try some more. For now I’m also checking to see how long it takes the bumps to go away. I did some as a test 3 days ago, then some more 2 days ago. Last night I used the cream and this morning the bumps are still there but nearly gone. Some aren’t just bumps, it’s fully a tiny scab :(
Maybe I just bought a cheap one? I know they get expensive, I’m not shelling out $160 for it though…
My skincare routine consists of “use the moisturizing lotion I got for free” and “foaming exfoliating body scrub” in the shower. So basically nonexistent 😂 I definitely need to get into one though but have no idea where to start. I love how smooth my legs feel after taking care of the hair and using lotion though. I had girlfriends in the past who would rub their legs obsessively after shaving and now I understand why!
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•My outfit today!English
0·8 days agoI actually got an epillator the other day, and my skin seems to not like it very much. A bunch of angry red dots pop up wherever the hair was pulled from. It was making my legs so smooth though!
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Hows the middle week for everyone!?English
0·8 days agoFuck small steps, give me a pool filled with estradiol!
You can absolutely style any t-shirt to be girly! In school all the goth/punk/alt girls would take old shirts and cut them up, and re-tie the strands together to make more feminine cuts, and as a bonus the sides had gaps to provide a nice breeze in summer (which sometimes required planning the wardrobe accordingly) so I bet you could absolutely make them more feminine! You need to post pics when you do!
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•My outfit today!English
0·8 days agoOne of my friends in the "Trans"formers group I’m in gave it to me last night at karaoke, it’s a little too small for her and purple I think suits me.
When I moved back here last year, I got rid of a dresser and 6ft wide mirror that could be removed and turned 90°, and I’m kicking myself for not thinking we needed it… Now I definitely want it back! I’m Def gonna be on the lookout for one at garage sales this spring and summer!
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Trans Joy@lemmy.blahaj.zone•I was adorable at my show tonight and I wanted to share!English
0·8 days agoHey! Don’t sell yourself short.
You’re adorable all the time!
I sure hope so, I’m already on the way to the store!
lol wrong comment
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Surgery QuestionsEnglish
0·8 days agoHey girl! I can’t answer the questions, but I might be able to add something as someone in the same boat.
I’m not on hrt (yet, fingers crossed) but after some discussion with my partner, looking into things, and taking a long look at what truly causes me dysphoria, I came to the same conclusion you have.
The girls have to go, every time I see them I die a little inside and every time I have to use compression underwear or tape to keep everything smooth I’m reminded my body doesn’t match my brain, but I still want to keep the centerpiece, as my spouse and I both want to continue utilizing things. My sex drive has always been low, and I kind of prefer giving pleasure to receiving, so we are confident we can make things work, and since I won’t be having dysphoria during intimate moments, I think things should even pick up a bit, especially once I’m on hrt and won’t hate my appearance in the mirror.
You are completely valid for only wanting an orchi, or even if you didn’t want to do any srs. I know several women who are years into their transition, some of whom have even hit their “transition goals”, who don’t have plans for full SRS.
A bit too into details: I was always a grower, and once the girls are gone I should be able to keep everything smooth and pleasant down under once I get an orchi, however everyone’s bodies are different and that’s just one of my personal goals. I can’t tell others what works for them or even what they might like. I’m sure you’ve given it plenty of thought!
Just don’t get in your head about what others might think and you’ll be much better off.
You got this!
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Trans Memes@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Mom, people are starting to think you've lost it
42·8 days agoRecently a friend’s parents ran into us on the street while we were walking around downtown and dead named him.
Motherfucker, who the fuck is “Sarah” and why the fuck are you talking to any of us? Nobody here is named Sarah and the person you are directly addressing is clearly not a woman.
If you mean the hairy-ass bearded dude standing next to me then I suggest you start addressing them properly before I call EMTs for the clearly senile elderly man wandering around thinking random people are his “daughter” he never had.
And had they not told me about the fact they aren’t AMAB, I would never have guessed. So if that had happened a week earlier I probably would have been a lot more concerned for their well-being.
Parents be crazy
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Hows the middle week for everyone!?English
0·8 days agoI checked planned parenthood, and they’ve got an office about 40 miles from me and I have some money I had saved up “just in case” (“just in case" what, turtle?) I could use for some appointments and things.
I really do want to get started, but im just terrible at reaching out to make appointments. I’ve always said I need a medical assistant I can shoot a text to and be like “I need dental work, can we find a dentist that accepts medicaid and schedule an appointment?” instead I wait for things to build up until I have no choice but to make the calls… Not healthy lol
Add all that into the fact that I’m making a bit of a leap in today’s world, and while it’s a ledge I want to sprint off of, getting that first good stride toward the edge is apparently harder mentally. I should see if one of our friends is willing to schedule it for me 😂 or bare minimum help me through it…
Definitely post the Burninating. A few of my friends want to have a full ceremony under the full moon to get rid of mine.
I’ve already tossed almost all my male undergarments and some of the more hated clothing. I have most of my shirts and some things to interview/work/be boymoding in… Can’t wait until I can have a witchy ceremony to destroy them once and for all!
Well, as long as you’re doing it ironically, I think you’re safe from transing your gender, but if there’s even a hint of seriousness, sorry girl but I got news for you…
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Hows the middle week for everyone!?English
0·9 days agoIf you’ve got appointments scheduled, you’re further along than I am! I have no idea where to start and given the state I live in, I have to scrape up money for everything since insurance will no longer pay for it. 😭
It sounds like you’re well on the way to being your true you! Def jealous.
Honestly I might go full weirdo and stuff the clothes with straw to make weird strawmen to burn my clothes in a field… Alas, also not yet.
Someday!
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Hows the middle week for everyone!?English
0·9 days agoOut at a karaoke night that’s winding down with friends from the LGBT group, and in full girlmode (minus makeup) outside around people for the first time ever! I wore a skirt out a few days ago and decided I wanted more.
Now I want to burn all my boy clothes and never wear masculine shit again…
But I’m having a blast out right now and that’s what’s important!
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Trans Joy@lemmy.blahaj.zone•I got a gaff!!!! Bye-bye bulge ❤️❤️❤️English
0·9 days agoThat would be great!
Courtney (she/her/they) @lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Today's fitEnglish
0·9 days agoOooh super cute!

It claims to be waterproof, but I wouldn’t trust it to get wet, it feels fairly “not sealed” if that makes sense. Things with decent waterproofing tend to feel more solid with all the seals and things.
I might be able to get it to work in the shower if i am careful to keep water away from it. Honestly I should have just forked up the extra money to get a halfway decent one… That’s on me.
I’ve heard of “sugaring” but never looked into it. It sounds messy.
My partner’s wax kit is a hard wax kit that I’ve used on them a handful of times. It’s easy to come off the skin when it cools, but at this point I would have to wait like 2 weeks to have enough hair to use it… I just am a bit of a whimp when it comes to voluntary pain. I can deal with literally being stabbed until I get to a hospital, but start pulling my arm hairs and I’ll cry… Pain is weird lol
I’m still getting a skin care routine figured out, But I’m sure I will get the hang of it eventually. This is just the first time I’ve decided I’m going to stick to things long term…