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For what it’s worth, I don’t give a shit about “fairness” in sports.
Then why the fuck are you even in this discussion, arguing with people trying to defend a highly marginalised section of the community?
If you “don’t care”, then dropping it so as to not be part of the active exclusion of trans people would be the appropriate move.
I can’t produce testosterone anymore, and I’ve got a few years worth of injections spare. After that runs out, I guess it’s menopause time…
Putting on my instance admin hat, and my moderator hat, you are welcome here, and you are welcome to talk about your experiences here. You are one of us, and this is your space as much as anyone elses!
Some tips though. You can add content warnings in the title. A NSFW tag helps, but you can also add in something like “CW: Surgery regret” in the title. That lets people who know it’s a triggering topic for them avoid the whole discussion, without having to click on it to find out what it’s about.
And as I said in a reply elsewhere, you need to be careful about the language you use. You don’t have to hide your pain or trauma when talking about your own experiences and doubts, but you do need to be careful when you’re making generalisations and using language that applies to folk other than yourself. You need to make sure that your words are talking about your experience. But that goes both ways! The same care and consideration I’m asking of you when you talk about topics that can trigger other folk, is also owed to you when people are talking to you. No one gets to tell you who you are, or tell you how to feel.
Trans people do not, under any circumstances, gatekeep when you feel like a “real woman” because bottom surgery is something utterly inaccessible to most.
Sorry, but this is simply wrong. There is a whole section of the community that does exactly that. They are known as transmedicalists. They believe that you have to have dysphoria to be trans, and that you have to badly want GRS, and do everything you can to attain it.
For many many years, this fitting this description was the only way to access medical care, as popularised by the Benjamin Standards of care. And whilst many countries have moved away from this, many have not. There are many trans communities and sub communities that absolutely judge trans people who don’t need or want GRS, because they’re perpetuating the transphobic gatekeeping that they’ve internalised in to their own self image.
Which is to say, a key part of your suspicion is based on your own lack of exposure to harmful parts of the community, and there is a non zero chance that you’re being needlessly cruel to someone expressing their pain and vulnerability.
Yes, it’s suspicious that someone with a brand new account appears out of nowhere, and expresses pain and distress at an experience that is uncommon in trans spaces, yet is also perceived as common by transphobes.
But unless you know for certain that you aren’t hurting a genuine member of the community with your words, I’m going to ask that you refrain from engaging further.
Assuming I knew that my behaviour was being modelled and this model would influence the outcome, I’d remove myself from the decision making process and flip a coin.
Here’s what the science actually says https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/
What these people say? It’s not science. It’s bias, wearing a veneer of science, so that people who don’t like the idea of trans kids existing can point at something other than their own internal discomfort.
What they’re getting at is they don’t ask for people who are trans, they ask for people “navigating gender dysphoria”.
It’s like someone using “females” instead of women.
When you choose that framing, it’s often a sign of something deeper at play…
So Littman and Bailey are controversial. Not unethical. (Fyi Lisa Littman is herself a trans woman).
Incorrect. They are both unethical.
Littman for example, when doing her study on rapid onset gender dysphoria, targeted only online spaces which were full of parents that were upset and angry at having a transgender child. Her sample was deliberately and knowingly biased towards supporting the hypothesis she invented. Her audience also didn’t involve any trans people, only the parents of trans people, and parents who were, as a group, explicitly more likely to be strongly uncomfortable with the idea of having a trans child.
This wasn’t a mistake, or an oversight. It was a deliberate choice she made to bias her results. That’s not “controversial”, that’s outright unethical.
Similarly, Bailey regularly lies to his participant audience, and loads his studies with questions predisposed to get the results he wants to show.
The study linked to in this post is a classic example of that. None of the results of this will be designed to help people navigate dysphoria. The study is trying to draw trans people in to think that they’re helping, when in fact, the results will be used to actively undermine their ability to seek transition care and support.
Bailey and Littmans findings make the trans community angry because the research supports that for some trans females, (not all but some) they transition due to a sexual kink. That they can only be sexually excited by being a woman.
Even that’s not true.
When you look at the definitions Bailey uses for autogynephilia for example, if you apply those same measures to cis women, it turns out, they too more often than not, meet the requirements for autogynephilia. It only becomes a paraphilia when the woman is trans though, and it only becomes an explanation for the woman’s identity, when the woman is trans.
It’s taking a real correlation, ignoring the fact that the correlation isn’t unique to trans folk, and then using that correlation as an explanation for trans identity.
He never said it’s true for all female trans people.
He said it’s the only way to be a trans woman that is asexual, bisexual or gay.
The only trans women who don’t fit his criteria of transitioning due to a paraphilia, are straight trans women. Who, by the way, he calls “Homosexual transexuals”. He can’t even recognise their gender… And speaking of that, even though he thinks that trans women who aren’t straight should be able to transition, he doesn’t think that they’re women, and will repeatedly misgender them or talk only about their birth sex when talking about them.
Take a look at this, from his personal blog…
In this screenshot, you can see that whilst defending a woman who had nazis at her rally, he refers to trans women as “male” without ever referring to them as women, whilst also showing a diagram that says all trans activists are paraphillic (and thus, not really trans)
Bailey genuinely believes he is doing good science. But he’s not. He’s got a lens through which he perceives transgender identity, and he is absolutely not open to challenging that. That’s not good science…
I struggle to understand how you can call anything the man does “ethical”
What’s MLB?
Ah yeah, I think I know what is causing that! We had a similar issue with Tesseract after we setup our new endpoints.
Kaity will have a poke around when she gets a chance!
Thanks. Kaity will have a poke around when she’s up and out of bed for the day and see what can be found
Here. Or a DM to me or Kaity.
Or you can grab us on matrix if you use it
Bandit Heeler (Bluey’s dad)
Or start your own!
Amazing :)
Gridfinity
Added you as the new mod of the community, and removed the banned account from the mod list
Are you in the age range of the group? (I don’t need to know exactly how old you are, just that you’re moderating a group that is relevant to you)
My relationship with gender didn’t so much manifest that way.
Before I came out and accepted myself, I openly told myself I “should have been a girl”, but I also believed I wasn’t, and that was that. I didn’t really feel anything at the idea of femininity. That was my experience of feeling gender
My D&D group started off with one token girl. Then he transitioned. So I became the token girl.
I’m not a vegan or even a vegetarian, but I wouldn’t argue with you if you made that claim, because the only reason we as a society eat as much meat as we do, is because it’s normalised at every level for economic reasons.
If I can manage that, you can manage to not argue with trans people trying to deal with the active and ongoing exclusion they face.