I’ve been talking about this with my therapist but curious to hear what other people think. I feel like being overweight makes me look more masculine. I lost 60 pounds since last fall and I feel like it’s much easier to see myself as feminine, though it’s still not great, in part because I’ve still got like 40lbs left to reach my goal weight.
I think part of the problem is that I am tall with a fairly large frame, so the weight just makes me even more stocky and Tony Soprano-esque. Plus I’ve just come to associate my being overweight with being unattractive, and my concept of femininity is very caught up in my fear of not being attractive post-transition
Anyway 4 dollars a pound
for me at least it’s the opposite. I was underweight due to not being able to feel hungry. fixed it and gained more weight, and was quite happy, since I thought it would make me look more masculine…
My hips grew and I got upset. This was basically the nail in the coffin for confirming I had gender dysphoria.