A trans parent would likely still want to be called “Mom” or “Dad”, I assume. At least that’s the case with the few trans parents I know.

Parents don’t usually use “daughter” or “son” as pronouns, so I don’t think it would come up with non-binary children.

Do children of non-binary parents call their parents by their first name? It seems unlikely that they say “Parent, may I please have more screen time?”.

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    They use a mixture of “MOM” and “DAD” and call them “MAD”.

    Just a silly joke. I have no opinion.

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    my son calls me baba. i’ve met other enby parents that use the same term. i originally heard it on blues clues lol

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    Very individualized as per need. Non-binary is an umbrella term for a whole bunch of different situations so what feels right is going to be very different for someone who feels like say a mix of masculine and feminine versus someone who has dysphoric reactions to any and all gender markers. It’s going to be different for someone whose identity is more static than say someone who fluidly bounces between extremes.

    If you know someone who is non-binary that’s essentially just the tip of the iceberg of a whole discussion about how they personally interact with their body or the culture of gender. A lot of people seem to treat it as a full stop third category which can actually be a disservice to a non-binary person because it oftentimes just leads to a lot of new assumptions and frames out some of the ways they could be better treated than just as automatically genderless. I’ve heard of mixes of Mom/Dad for bigender people, just Mom or Dad for trans masc/femme folk, Completely new words that do not have cultural baggage, or just “my parent”. It’s not a one size fits all situation.

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      I just mean that I don’t often hear parents addressing their kids as “Son” except in '50s media! I’m sure it happens.

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    Probably depends on the kid. In the right house with the right mindset I bet parents could use first names. Otherwise it will probably be a special word to all of them, maybe something the kid calls them one day that sticks.

    Maybe the parents will look to the internet or peers for answers and get stuff like “guardian” “my other parent” etc but ultimately the real question you should ask is how a child addresses their two same-gendered parents, maybe there’s something to contexutalize there.

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      I was going to say it’s definitely a case by case basis and what both parents and kids are comfortable with. With same-gender couples, I’ve often seen with my friends using two different gendered honorifics, like “mom” and “mama” or “dad” and “papa”.

      With trans people, often times it depends on when they came out. If before the child was born, or they were really young, I know a lot of parents will switch what they use, but for many people the title becomes something beyond gender. I’ve met a trans woman who transitioned later in life and was still “dad” to her kids because her role as a dad didn’t invalidate her gender as a woman. In the same vein, I’ve known nonbinary folk who have kept “mom” or “dad” after coming out, went with a less traditional title, or even just made one up either something fun and ungendered (think something like “babi”). I’ve also heard people just using a diminutive of they’re name, like rather than the kid saying “my parent, Sam” it becomes “my Sammy”.

      The fun thing about language is that it changes to fit the needs of people and groups, so we can just make it up as we go!