97% sure someone posted this at some point, but I think it’s been a while… ⊙﹏⊙
This is one of the many reasons why my life is easier now that I’ve transitioned from male to female. Now when I do something cringy and weird in order to flirt, people just think it’s cute.
I’m on the good side of the double standard now!
I mean not having gender dysphoria anymore’s a bigger plus, but ya know, count ya blessings.
this sounds great but unfortunately is not guaranteed to work (ask me how I know). Terms and conditions apply
Hell even cis lesbians struggle with this a lot (afaict it’s the source of the infamous top shortage)
Wait… all the lesbians I’ve seen were wearing tops in public.
Oh you mean those tops.
Gosh I still feel like a predator
Maybe I should have just stayed in the vore community, I was in demand lol
The vote what now? Do i wanna knowಠ_ಠ
This is why, despite everything wrong with them, I prefer using dating sites. As long as everyone knows that the communal goal is flirting, it feels a little bit less like I’m bothering them and more like I’m entertaining them.
I can make this easier, at least for anyone interacting with me:
If you’re reading this, you - yes, you - have my full and explicit permission to compliment me, flirt with me, or ask me out. I am extremely good at saying no if needed and promise not to be offended if you make the first move.
Also you’re cute 😘
They shot every shot at once, this strategy is crazy
I’m aggressively poly so, yeah. I’m constantly shooting all of the shots.
Samesies!
OMG! We’re both poly?
What if we kissed 👉👈
Jk… unless?
I have one question for you: girls?
Among other people 😘
I can see the pronouns in your username. I wouldn’t be flirting if I wasn’t interested
Ah, girls 😌 delightful
Okay, so let me rebut this point for point:
- Permission doesn’t help when I don’t know how
- I’m terrified that you’ll say no, so that doesn’t help either
- Wha- I’m not cute! You’re cute! Wait, no, I mean… Sh-shut up!
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You’ve already done it, see point 3
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How can I say no when I’ve already said yes? At least to the initial conversation anyways
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If you don’t think you’re cute, prove it 😘 Send me a picture of you, I bet you’re cute af
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This. I’d rather die alone than risk even the slightest possibility of making someone else uncomfortable.
why yes I am in therapy how did you know
Yeah the fear of imposing on someone. There are plenty of assholes, but lots of perfectly nice people just communicate what they want/need/feel and it’s okay. Not just talking about dating.
Then whenever you take your risk and do it, and get rejected, you retreat back to try it again in 6 months.
Edit: I have zero problem and welcome people being honest, and adjust accordingly. But when I try to do that it rarely works the same way. Could just be how I communicate, but it is a struggle.
I feel the exactly the same but am not in therapy. … Maybe I should consider therapy.
I feel this hard. I always feel like I’m imposing myself on everyone. I’m non binary but masc presenting (even though I don’t necessarily like that, it’s just my default hardware), and like, I hate that the onus is on me to initiate, because I HATE IT
Hey 😘
You’re valid and probably really cute
99% sure that’s pretty normal for healthy minded people, men, women, trans, non-binary etc.
Making the first move is taking a risk: aka being vulnerable. It’s when they don’t respond enthusiastically and you don’t stop that it’s a problem.
harass me.
You should smile more
that’s… kinda hilarious.
Im not fem and i feel like this so many times. What i fear most, much more than rejection is overstepping social lines. Also if youre a woman pls make the first move, its extremely hot if the guy is a switch i can tell you that lol.
Fr. I wish I was into men. Making the first move as a woman is so goddamn easy. Sure, rejection is scary, but that’s it.
I shall stand at the sidelines and encourage my female friends to 1) communicate and work on their issues and 2) go after that hairy man’s ass.
