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Cake day: June 16th, 2023

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  • An interesting addendum to your question: this is not a exclusively US based phenomenon. In Germany there are the Reichsbürgers they have similar ideas.

    They think legally the state has no claim to rule and most people just don’t know they still live in the German Reich still.

    So they have their own king selling them passports and they have pretty aggressive group think to try and enforce their claims.

    My wife’s dad is one of them. The main thing I recognize comes from a pathological need to know better than everybody else. It’s very tightly coupled to their sense of worth and identity. They are better than everybody else because they have seen the light.

    Pretty culty behavior and just enough pseudo truth to keep simple minds saying “yeah there might be something there”. Like “vaccination causes autism, they just don’t want you to know”.

    Makes a loser in societies eyes, but a superhuman in their eyes. And yes, they still run into a wall and just keep trying to adjust their angle to hit that sacred sweet spot. Because now they need to prove how they are better and as they already have sacrificed so much they can’t be wrong to continue. (Just like a gambler who already lost a lot.)

    So it’s a few psychological dynamics that grip into each other like gears and that ratchet them ever so tightly to their belief until there is no turning back.


  • Write them a letter, make sure they get it. Tell them you wait until they are ready and old enough to meet you without their mother’s approval. Also talk to the mom, offer to watch the kids sometimes, in my experience moms love “time off”.

    I have that exact scenario looming over me at the moment. I’m very scared of losing my bio children (3) over my mentally unstable partner choosing the alcoholic best friend over living with me. She has already refused any touch for more than a year. the only one hugging me are the little ones and I don’t know who i am without taking care of them anymore. Had a bad panic attack for the first time in my live.

    I wish you all the best.


  • Funnily enough I have written a system to do exactly that as a bachelor’s theses for IT security.

    Places client certificates and a client inside the initrd and requests securely the key to unlock.

    The sever waits for you to approve the request before providing the key. The key is only held in memory during boot.

    I had a version that included for a hidden key provider and planned for a version that included time based auto unlocks etc.

    I was planning to package that and release it as open source.

    Still might do that.