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Ok, sure, but also negative thinking and giving up hope literally never helped once. It doesn’t help in real world ways and it makes your mental state worse. Obviously going around in a state of denial doesn’t help and ND people have specific challenges a NT person might not get, but ultimately you gotta cling to a positive mindset to make things better.
negative thinking and giving up hope literally never helped once
The gambler’s fallacy, also known as the Monte Carlo fallacy or the fallacy of the maturity of chances, is the belief that, if an event (whose occurrences are independent and identically distributed) has occurred less frequently than expected, it is more likely to happen again in the future (or vice versa).
Obviously going around in a state of denial doesn’t help
It’s not obvious. That’s the hitch. Figuring out when to persist and when to accept defeat is at the heart of the emotional struggle.
Yet positive thinking has proven to be better for your mental and emotional state, helps you heal faster, and actually helps you succeed because you’re looking for opportunities instead of ignoring them, as well as actually trying those opportunities instead of talking yourself out of it.
It’s not a fallacy to try to think positively, it’s a scientifically proven tactic.
Yeah, you gotta know when to fold em, but saying that thinking you can do something is the same as a gamblers fallacy is a false dichotomy.
not true.
I lived most my early life in the darkness. it almost consumed me when I attempted to take my life. know what saved me?
spite.
when people put me down, I proved them wrong out of spite. I stomped them into the ground as violently as I could (metaphorically).
when I put myself down I punished myself, out of spite. tell myself I can’t run this mile? run until I want to die. think I can’t complete this task before the deadline? don’t stop until it’s done. that means no food, water, sleep, or relief until it’s done.
I am a hate-filled spite powered machine that will only stop if I’m dead or unconscious. never had hope for the future, never had a positive thought towards the future. I just want to “swing my sword” and test my mettle.
Spite’s some good shit, but it’s always diluted by a lingering fixation with others’ objectives. It works, but it’s just a common street drug, and you need more of it every time you use it.
The pharmaceutical grade product is called determination. Pure determination makes you unstoppable.
If you find a reliable supplier btw hmu
“Be like me I never graduated college and I’m doing fine!”
:: a pelican drops dead in his driveway, throat pouch filled with $20,000 dollars ::
“Oh that happens about once a week, nothing to do with my success though”
Middle class? Haven’t seen one of those in ages.
You should only be legally allowed to give advice to people on the same step of Maslow’s Hierarchy
Underrated comment. I went to school with a bunch of kids who fully did not expect to live past 25 years old. It was a different mindset and they needed and received different advice than I did.
Does the middle class exist?
Do “Neurotypical” people exist? Seems to me like the classic example of how the average woman has 2.5 children, but you can’t find anyone who actually gives birth to 2.5 children.
And I thought the ones selling positive thinking were white women? Or maybe Asian men- specifically gurus from “eastern” religions? I thought white men were supposed to be the ones following stoicism or nutritional supplements.
Its almost as if stereotypes and broad categorizations break down under scrutiny.
I once attended one of these talks (not by choice) and the speaker told us a motivating story where through hard work and determination she sold a penthouse. Girl, I don’t know anyone who knows anyone who can afford a fucking penthouse.
Not with that attitude
