Sure, I’d be interested if you think this is a broken plate situation or not.
We left the pub as a group of four: her, me, and two male friends of hers. I was shitfaced as fuck, like on the verge of not beeing able to walk properly anymore. I didn’t chose to get shitfaced too. I was on a diet and skipped lunch to “afford” the calories of a few drinks. Turned out drinking and an empty stomach are a bad combination. Who would’ve thought, right? I ended up beeing way more wasted then I usually would have been. That is not any excuse for anything, I just bring it up because it is part of the facts
We approached the local train station to go home. Our train was allready standing and waiting to leave, but it would do so for another 20 minutes.
As we arrived at the train station I asked to sit down in the train, as I was feeling realy dizzy and increasingly cold (it was winter). My friend said she’d like us to wait outside at the station plattform and enter the train just before its final take of time.
I don’t recall much of the details, but an argument broke out about this, me wanting to go into the train and her wanting to wait outside. It was not a screaming match and not aggressiv, just a normal discussion (this has been confirmed by one of her male friends later, so you don’t need to trust my drunken recollection here).
Since there were two male friends of hers with us, it wasn’t an issue of her waiting alone at the plattform if I had left. I honestly don’t recall her reasoning, or any details of the discussion, nor why we didn’t simply split up. The argument ended with me beeing frustrated and saying: “You can sit around in the cold or on that guys dick, for all I care, but I’m going into the train now.”
I headed for the train and all three of them followed. We waited together until the train took of and everybody went their merry way. I have no recollection of any conversation that happens about the comment on the way home. She approached me a couple of days later and said that she took great offence.
And just to make this clear: This was the single thing that lead to her ending our friendship. It wasn’t the boiling over point, it wasn’t the last stupid thing in a long list of stupid things. A week earlier she had thanked me for beeing such a good friend.
I honestly have to admit, I still don’t get it.
I see how it was a stupid thing to say and of course I see how it was offensiv. I still don’t see why it was bad enoth to end a friendship over, and she never explained it to me. I never tried to defend what I said, I apologised as soon as I was made aware of it (I don’t remember the incident in great detail. The above telling is put together from my memory fragments and the telling of her two male friends, whom I independently asked to fill me in on what had happend).
What did you say exactly?
You keep skirting the issue when what you said was obviously BAD.
It was bad enough that it made you stop drinking. What did you say?
Sure, I’d be interested if you think this is a broken plate situation or not.
We left the pub as a group of four: her, me, and two male friends of hers. I was shitfaced as fuck, like on the verge of not beeing able to walk properly anymore. I didn’t chose to get shitfaced too. I was on a diet and skipped lunch to “afford” the calories of a few drinks. Turned out drinking and an empty stomach are a bad combination. Who would’ve thought, right? I ended up beeing way more wasted then I usually would have been. That is not any excuse for anything, I just bring it up because it is part of the facts
We approached the local train station to go home. Our train was allready standing and waiting to leave, but it would do so for another 20 minutes.
As we arrived at the train station I asked to sit down in the train, as I was feeling realy dizzy and increasingly cold (it was winter). My friend said she’d like us to wait outside at the station plattform and enter the train just before its final take of time.
I don’t recall much of the details, but an argument broke out about this, me wanting to go into the train and her wanting to wait outside. It was not a screaming match and not aggressiv, just a normal discussion (this has been confirmed by one of her male friends later, so you don’t need to trust my drunken recollection here).
Since there were two male friends of hers with us, it wasn’t an issue of her waiting alone at the plattform if I had left. I honestly don’t recall her reasoning, or any details of the discussion, nor why we didn’t simply split up. The argument ended with me beeing frustrated and saying: “You can sit around in the cold or on that guys dick, for all I care, but I’m going into the train now.”
I headed for the train and all three of them followed. We waited together until the train took of and everybody went their merry way. I have no recollection of any conversation that happens about the comment on the way home. She approached me a couple of days later and said that she took great offence.
And just to make this clear: This was the single thing that lead to her ending our friendship. It wasn’t the boiling over point, it wasn’t the last stupid thing in a long list of stupid things. A week earlier she had thanked me for beeing such a good friend.
I honestly have to admit, I still don’t get it. I see how it was a stupid thing to say and of course I see how it was offensiv. I still don’t see why it was bad enoth to end a friendship over, and she never explained it to me. I never tried to defend what I said, I apologised as soon as I was made aware of it (I don’t remember the incident in great detail. The above telling is put together from my memory fragments and the telling of her two male friends, whom I independently asked to fill me in on what had happend).