Gloomy
A buddhist vegan goth with questionable humour.
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Come on, don’t leave us hanging here. What did you add???
Gloomy@mander.xyzto Disco Elysium@lemmy.zip•Good news, though a few months old: Argo Tuulik and Dora Klindžić reached their GoFundMe goal <3English3·25 days agoThanks for sharing :-)
Gloomy@mander.xyzto Global News@lemmy.zip•US | Minnesota Democratic lawmaker shot dead, another wounded in 'politically motivated' attacks7·25 days agoAmerica is moving closer and closer to a civil war by the day.
Gloomy@mander.xyzto Deutschland@feddit.org•Deutscher Wetterdienst: Hitzetage sind nicht normal33·25 days agoDeutschland 2050: Es gab schon immer mindestens 10 Tage mit über 40 Grad, das ist ganz normal.
Duno… She looks like twelve or something.
Oh yes. Little Bobby Boblins, we call him.
Sure, I’d be interested if you think this is a broken plate situation or not.
We left the pub as a group of four: her, me, and two male friends of hers. I was shitfaced as fuck, like on the verge of not beeing able to walk properly anymore. I didn’t chose to get shitfaced too. I was on a diet and skipped lunch to “afford” the calories of a few drinks. Turned out drinking and an empty stomach are a bad combination. Who would’ve thought, right? I ended up beeing way more wasted then I usually would have been. That is not any excuse for anything, I just bring it up because it is part of the facts
We approached the local train station to go home. Our train was allready standing and waiting to leave, but it would do so for another 20 minutes.
As we arrived at the train station I asked to sit down in the train, as I was feeling realy dizzy and increasingly cold (it was winter). My friend said she’d like us to wait outside at the station plattform and enter the train just before its final take of time.
I don’t recall much of the details, but an argument broke out about this, me wanting to go into the train and her wanting to wait outside. It was not a screaming match and not aggressiv, just a normal discussion (this has been confirmed by one of her male friends later, so you don’t need to trust my drunken recollection here).
Since there were two male friends of hers with us, it wasn’t an issue of her waiting alone at the plattform if I had left. I honestly don’t recall her reasoning, or any details of the discussion, nor why we didn’t simply split up. The argument ended with me beeing frustrated and saying: “You can sit around in the cold or on that guys dick, for all I care, but I’m going into the train now.”
I headed for the train and all three of them followed. We waited together until the train took of and everybody went their merry way. I have no recollection of any conversation that happens about the comment on the way home. She approached me a couple of days later and said that she took great offence.
And just to make this clear: This was the single thing that lead to her ending our friendship. It wasn’t the boiling over point, it wasn’t the last stupid thing in a long list of stupid things. A week earlier she had thanked me for beeing such a good friend.
I honestly have to admit, I still don’t get it. I see how it was a stupid thing to say and of course I see how it was offensiv. I still don’t see why it was bad enoth to end a friendship over, and she never explained it to me. I never tried to defend what I said, I apologised as soon as I was made aware of it (I don’t remember the incident in great detail. The above telling is put together from my memory fragments and the telling of her two male friends, whom I independently asked to fill me in on what had happend).
Yes, that’s true of course. I just don’t think it is of benefit to yourself to hold a grudge.
Have I moved past their betrayal? I think so. Have I forgiven them? Yes. Do I want those people in my life again? no. never.
That’s exactly what I was tyring to get at. Forgiving is something you do for yourself. That doesn’t mean you have to forget about what happend nor not let it have consequences. But holding to the grudge will do nothing but harm yourself.
I stopped drinking alcohol after the event for good, so there’s that. It’s not that I haven’t learned my lesson from it. (Not drinking not beeing the only one, but i won’t go into more personal details here).
And I wouldn’t call it a character flaw. More like an approach on how to handle live. And in this case, I think she didn’t chose a good approach for herself.
I have encountered this analogy irl. I was pretty drunk and said something distasteful to a friend. She ended our friendship over it and caused the group we were in to split into factions. We tried talking it over, but after I made all efforts I could to apologise, she responded with the plate analogy.
Honestly I thinks its a bad position to take. People have wronged me too over the years. Forgiving them, regardless of them apologising or not, is, in my experience, the better option for yourself.
The hate you carry with you if you don’t doesn’t do anything to them, but it eats you up from the inside. Forgiving somebody frees you from that. It’s not about forgetting what people have done to you (and maybe choosing not to keep them in your life depending on how bad it was that they did), it’s about not carrying the hate with you trough the years.
Gloomy@mander.xyzto politics @lemmy.world•MAGA melts down over ‘WOKE MARXIST POPE’ who is a ‘Never Trumper liberal’1·2 months agoYes, but the message of the new testament has very little to do with the historical figure of jesus and is build around the ideas of Jesus that devolved in the years after his death. For the later church I would agree: The main message is love.
Gloomy@mander.xyzto News@lemmy.world•Trump involved in discussions over suspending habeas corpus, sources say42·2 months agoPlease add /s to sarcastic statements.
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Gloomy@mander.xyzto News@lemmy.world•People with lower cognitive ability more likely to fall for pseudo-profound bullshit5·2 months agoThe article feels like an AI summary to me.
Gloomy@mander.xyzto RPGMemes @ttrpg.network•I probably fucked up as a GM, but my first WFRP session was funny in hinsight5·2 months agoI GM two groups, both in pathfinder 1e.
In one group every player has played three or four characters by now. Death can happen at any time and that is part of the challenge they have to overcome. It’s how they prefer it, always having high stacked against them. They are all about min-maxing their builds and finding ways to make my live hard coming up with more or less creative ways to counter their stuff.
In the other grou0 the characters have very clear plot armour, which we agreed upon beforehand. The players have developed their characters and take their fun from seeing how the adventures they have changes, develops and fleshed put their characters. They can die, but we agreed beforehand that there always will be a way of coming back from the dead at some point.
They just prefer role-playing and their challenge is to solve situations in a way that they as players and their characters feel good about. If they fuck it up in how they approach things they still will kill the bad guy in the end and live trough it, but its the difference between leaving back a smouldering ruin full of corpses or a village that sends them back on their way as heroes.
I can appreciate both playstyles and keep them in mind when I give challenges to the two groups. Non feels lame to me. It’s just very different ways of playing.
It’s baseivly the difference between early season game of throes where everything could happen to anybody and the more tradional style of series, where main character almost never die but the story is about their inner growth and how they deal with what the world throws at them.
Gloomy@mander.xyzto News@lemmy.world•Trump takes credit for 'good parts' of economy, blames 'bad parts' on Biden4·2 months agoJust in case anybody has an hour to spare, this is a YouTube video summarising all 14 parts. I have no idea why I watched this, tbh. I never even heared of the damn movies. I guess sometime it’s three a clock and these things just happen.
You are right, but the details are a bit of.
So there were two kinda of slavery. For Israeli the concept of indentured slavery was applied: 7 years and then you were free. But if you married during that time and had children, your wife and children remeined slaves.
So masters tried to find wife’s for their indentured slaves, because most likley people won’t leave back their family after 7 years. So Israeli slaves could pledge themselves to their masters for live.
When you buy a male Hebrew slave, he shall serve six years, but in the seventh he shall go out a free person, without debt. 3 If he comes in single, he shall go out single; if he comes in married, then his wife shall go out with him. 4 If his master gives him a wife and she bears him sons or daughters, the wife and her children shall be her master’s, and he shall go out alone. 5 But if the slave declares, ‘I love my master, my wife, and my children; I will not go out a free person,’ 6 then his master shall bring him before God. He shall be brought to the door or the doorpost, and his master shall pierce his ear with an awl, and he shall serve him for life.
For non Israeli (Gentils) their was just plain and simple slavery.
44 As for the male and female slaves whom you may have, it is from the nations around you that you may acquire male and female slaves. 45 You may also acquire them from among the aliens residing with you and from their families who are with you who have been born in your land; they may be your property. 46 You may keep them as a possession for your children after you, for them to inherit as property. These you may treat as slaves, but as for your fellow Israelites, no one shall rule over the other with harshness.
I am not as critical of Ai as many here are, but this is the slopiest AI slop that I have seen in a long time.