the_robot_from_planet_danger [comrade/them]@hexbear.net to neurodiverse@hexbear.netEnglish · 24 days ago

help with communicating a simple concept

the_robot_from_planet_danger [comrade/them]@hexbear.net to neurodiverse@hexbear.netEnglish · 24 days ago

i am new to being aware of my ADHD and trying to unmask a bit where it’s acceptable to do so. i don’t know what to call it when i have been suffering more psychic pain than usual from ADHD.

for example, i yelled at my stepfather yesterday and when i apologize to him today i want to communicate that i’ve been struggling with being overstimulated and badly regulating my emotions for four or five days and i yelled at him partially because of that stress. usually i would just say i’ve been “feeling like shit” but how could i communicate the idea of like, an “episode” of adhd to him?

also, for him i don’t really expect him to understand, i’m just hoping he’ll accept my apology. how would you communicate the same idea with words to a partner or loved one who is actually on board with trying to understand your adhd?

thanks <3

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“The last four of five days have been really rough. I’m sorry I yelled at you.” Might be a good phrase to use in this instance.

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