Some women have never been told no. It can be more fun than saying yes sometimes though.
I don’t care if this makes me a bad person, I get such immense satisfaction from this kind of emotional blowout. It’s so fulfilling to see bona fide narcissists fail then go hysterical about it❤️
Well, the female friend basically said ‘I am so hot anyone I want (for example you) would love to have me as a girlfriend’.
By denying that, he denied her self worth.
Of course, her stance doesn’t take into account things like personal preference or matching personalities.
Or how unattractive that mindset itself is. It’s like the opposite of a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The correct reply is…
“There’s really only one way you could have me, and that is [describe whatever sort of sexual kink you’re into]. After that, I might consider it.”
Be prepared with pictures to make sure your communication is clear.
“… If your boobs were like 6 times as big, but still natural…”
It’s funny, I has this exact scenario play out with a guy friend in college. It ruined our friendship. We were friends for maybe two years at that point and I was taken aback because I never saw him as anything but a friend and he even had a girlfriend at the time!
After that exchange, he got so awkward the friendship fell apart. We still had classes together but he avoided me and I was not pressed to be near him, so we never saw each other again after that semester.
The core concept of the problem is not related to gender, it’s just that in societies highly differentiated by gender people have different means.
Talk to male friend
He randomly says if he wanted me he could have me
I tell him no he couldn’t
He gets really mad and says he could easily have me if he wanted to, practically has a fit of rage
Changed pronouns exemplifies that that the core concept of this is that “having someone” is supposedly less about consent and more about compliance to standardised appearance (aka so-called “objective” beauty). If you have a lot of means (e.g. male or wealth privilege), this gets creepy real fast.
IME the vast majority of women have no clue how to react to being rejected, because it almost never happens to them. As such, nearly all react badly or maladaptively regardless of conditions.
Conversely, for most men they have to endure rejection hundreds if not thousands of times before they strike it lucky. The small cohort that become maladaptive do so due to other social/societal reasons associated with the rejection, but vanishingly few react maladaptively purely because of the rejection.
Tell that to the surprisingly large number of men who threaten fucking violence against a girl for not wanting to go out with them.
I’m not saying you’re entirely wrong, but it’s not the only side of the story. Generally all people are really bad at handling emotions with other people, we need to make a stronger effort to turn these criticisms inward and figure out if our fears of other people are justified.
Yay for casual misogyny.
Our current western culture is one of violent misandry.
Women are being released from almost all historical expectations and constraints, which is wonderful and good. This is actual progress in action, however lopsided and gender-supremacy-like it might be.
Meanwhile, men are still constrained by all the historical expectations set out for them, yet have been completely stripped of all benefits that have traditionally accrued with those expectations being met. And yet, we are still being violently nailed to the wall - invariably by women ignoring and/or outright demeaning us - when we fail to meet those expectations.
This massive asymmetry that men experience is what is creating subgroups of disaffected men. Because 1ncels don’t just leap out of the ground, fully formed – they are a direct response to the unintended consequences of women trying to eat their cake and to have it as well. Think about that next time women refuse to date down, or demand a “666 man”, or expect the man to pay on the first date, or any other archaic and gender-bigoted expectation.
Go back to 4chan, incel.
Dropping fucking truths
They really aren’t though.
Radical 🤙
Bruh, who the fuck is being rejected “hundreds, if not thousands” times? Maybe some people are, but thats such a red flag that I would argue then maybe they should change their approach in the first place.
Maybe you are exaggerating (it just makes you sound a bit like an incel, apologies), and I probably would argue men do get rejected more then woman, because men are still (mostly) expected to make the first move, but like you don’t need experience handling rejection to not have a violent rage fit.
Edit: I have read another one of your replies down the chain, and uh yeah you definitely do sound a lot like an incel.
Yea… I’m well into middle age and I’ve been rejected like a dozen or so times maybe. I’m not sure how you get rejected 100s or 1000s unless you’re just swinging at everyone in your vicinity that happens to have a vagina. Maybe try talking to them first and see if there’s some chemistry there before going for a date…
I’m in my 30s and probably at over 100 rejections like, total in my life. I’ve never been looking for long term relationships so I do try with a larger number of women than most men. But like…hundreds of rejections between success? That’s absurd. You’d run out of women.
Anon isn’t smart lol
Anon is very smart and too good for this person
That would have been an easy lay for anon.
You guys are SO FRICKIN’ WEIRD.
I am extremely weird, man, I’m not trying to judge someone in any sense for being weird or asocial or whatever. But what sort of porn logic is this where someone’s opposite-sex friend is lightly flirting with him and the widely upvoted reactions range from “SHE’S AN EMOTIONAL TRAINWRECK RUN AWAY SHE DESERVES TO SUFFER” all the way to “FUCK HER, FUCK HER BRAINS OUT, SHE WANTS IT!”
It’s not even clear that she likes him for real. Sometimes friends interact with each other. Jesus Christ man. This is a fairly normal type of human interaction, not anything advanced or sophisticated, and the majority Lemmy opinion is apparently just a big sperglord house of horrors.
This is not a normal kind of human interaction, on the girl’s part.
It very strongly indicates she is a spoiled brat, a narcissist.
If you think this kind of interaction is normal… well I see two possible explanations:
You are also a narcissist and that’s why you think this is normal.
OR
You are surrounded by narcissists who have gaslit you into thinking this is normal, and you haven’t had too many regular interactions with non narcissists.
Also, I don’t see anywhere near as many total upvotes for ‘she’s into you dude, frost that cupcake!’ as I do for ‘this is the biggest red flag imaginable, let me write a short essay explaining why’
In fact, yeah, I don’t see a single comment advocating the anon dive into her… affairs, over this.
Bro this is basically an invitation for you to say “prove it”
lol you are jellous bro you don’t have female friends. I have, and this really happened to me with so many females more than one also
