Mama told me not to come.

She said, that ain’t the way to have fun.

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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • You do you, but a little professionalism goes a long way. Maybe that manager moves to another org that you want to apply at, and they reject you because of how you acted the last time. Or maybe they just tell someone at the new org how you left.

    Doing this has zero benefits to you, sending an email takes almost zero effort and might have some benefit for you. The rational thing is to send the email.



  • But if you’re going to violate a contract anyway, might as well make dealing with that easier for your direct manager. Maybe you’re unwilling to work those three months, but sending an email saying you resign at least helps your boss out. My boss put one of my coworkers on disability leave, for example, instead of firing them (he fired them when they came back after a couple months and the issue wasn’t resolved).

    But it all starts with actually making the most base level of effort. An email takes like 10 seconds and doesn’t need to be long:

    Sorry for the short notice, but I can’t work here anymore and won’t be coming in anymore. Know I’m supposed to give more notice, but I just can’t. Sorry again.

    As someone that manages people, I’d be annoyed with that, but less annoyed than if someone just stopped showing up. In fact, if they were a decent worker, I might respond with something like this:

    Thanks for letting me know. Here’s the documentation for short-term disability, if that’s what you need. Let me know if you’d like to try that. I’ve started processing your resignation with the shortest possible term (X days), but I can cancel that if you let my know by <day>. I’ve told the team you’re out sick, so coming back won’t be an issue if you choose to.

    I hope everything is well, please feel free to reach out, even if you just want to talk.

    And if I really didn’t like the employee:

    Sorry to hear that, thanks for letting me know, I’ve started processing your resignation. Our policy is 3 months notice, and the consequence for doing that is <X>. I’ve attached a copy of the company policy for you to review.

    Let me know if you need anything further.

    Both are better than sending no notice at all.





  • I just don’t understand that mentality. You burn a bridge, when you could just send an email or something saying you quit and keep the possibility of coming back sometime open. Or if your boss actually liked you, you could have gotten a recommendation, but instead decided to make their life suck.

    Just send an email saying you quit, it’s really not that hard.





  • I understand the Taiwan argument, I don’t understand Ukraine, how does everyone joining NATO help Russia/China in any capacity? By that logic, they should attack Switzerland or the Cayman Islands and piss off most of the billionaires in the world who hide their assets there…

    The purpose behind attacking Ukraine was to prevent them from joining NATO, and that kind of relied on a quick resolution to the war before other countries have a chance to join. The goal was to get in and get out with a treaty that formally recognizes Russia’s control over Crimea and promises to not join NATO.


  • Yup, started with 0 and working my way through.

    Some genres I especially like:

    • puzzles - Return of the Obra Dinn, Manifold Garden, etc
    • platformers - absolutely loved INSIDE and LIMBO, currently enjoying A Hat in Time, loved Psychonauts (Psychonauts 2 is on the list, but it’s not really “indie” anymore), little nightmares
    • metroidvanias - Blue Fire, Hollow Knight, etc
    • point and click - Darkside Detective, Deponia, etc
    • fighting/souls-like - Furi, Titan Souls
    • story - What Remains of Edith Finch
    • other - Recettear, Grand Mountain Adventure, Human Resource Machine

    Basically, if it has really good gameplay or story, I’ll probably like it.

    It’s probably more interesting to point out what I tend to not like:

    • roguelikes
    • city builders - I like high quality builders like Cities: Skylines, but indies tend to not have the budget
    • rhythm
    • stealth
    • shooters - very samey; I’d rather play AAA, such as Doom

    But then again, there’s an exception to each of these (e.g. I loved Slay the Spire and Black Mesa). So honestly, I’d probably enjoy anything that really stands out as being unique or interesting.



  • Exactly. We’re in a monogamous relationship and have made legal and spiritual contracts to be faithful with eachother, so it’s fair for my SO and I to “own” each other in a sense. That doesn’t mean we get to tell each other what to do, it just means we have an expectation that they won’t go looking for an outside relationship.

    It’s like saying “my gym,” I have a contract that states I can use their facilities. I don’t own that gym, but I do have a certain level of expectations.