Insert horrified looks when I tell me friends some “funny stories” from my childhood. :D

  • PugJesus@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    “Pug, you’re an incredibly smart kid, but you’re lazy.”

    Me, unable to remember homework, but acing every test and going above-and-beyond on any project with freeform requirements, leading to solid Bs and Cs despite half my assignments being a flat 0 for not being turned in: “Yeah.”

    … kind of wish someone looked a little deeper into the issue at the time.

    • MelodiousFunk@slrpnk.net
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      4 months ago

      Growing up neurodivergent in the 80s and not being disruptive enough to demand said deeper look may lead to:

      • Depression
      • Anxiety
      • Internalization of negative self-worth
      • Avoidance of formal higher education
      • Early burnout
      • Lifelong vague dissatisfaction
      • Disillusionment with the world and its systems
      • Being terminally online searching frantically for the next dopamine hit
    • chatokun@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      4 months ago

      I got this but my parents did know I had ADHD. My mom didn’t want to put me on mods though, so I mostly just got weird stuff done to manage it. Like making me sit in the bathroom with no distractions, not allowed to leave until homework was done, among other things.

      ADHD still affects me in the workplace, but I’m fortunately in a position where it’s not too detrimental and my bosses both like me and understand my challenges.

    • Monument@lemmy.sdf.org
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      4 months ago

      My mom used to talk in code a lot for no fucking reason. She’d throw out the weirdest segues and irrelevant stories. When I (barely) graduated from a gifted kids high school, she jumped from telling me she was proud of me, to telling me that when my sister was little, all her teachers told her that she should be “tested” - heavily implying it was for learning disabilities - and added that “none of [her] babies are retarded.”
      2 things - that sister had dyscalculia and never got beyond an associates degree because she kept failing math. And it took until my mom died to figure out she was also talking about me - and every one of my siblings.

      When going through my mom’s things, I found out that she ignored the advice of several teachers and school counselors to get me tested for ADHD. Because she didn’t want a ‘damaged’ kid.

    • SuzyQ@sh.itjust.works
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      4 months ago

      Same here. I didn’t get diagnosed until a couple of years ago but the signs were always there…

      Now I’m just biding my time until my youngest two get the diagnosis (my husband and I both are ADHD, and our other kids have already been diagnosed).

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    4 months ago

    And now these horribly abused children are adults with their own children.

    Thankfully a lot of them are learning to break the cycle of parental mental abuse

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      4 months ago

      "They fuck you up, your mum and dad.

      They may not mean to, but they do.

      They fill you with the faults they had

      And add some extra, just for you.

      But they were fucked up in their turn

      By fools in old-style hats and coats,

      Who half the time were soppy-stern

      And half at one another’s throats.

      Man hands on misery to man.

      It deepens like a coastal shelf.

      Get out as early as you can,

      And don’t have any kids yourself. "

      *This Be The Verse

      • MelodiousFunk@slrpnk.net
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        "Get out as early as you can,

        And don’t have any kids yourself. "

        I did not get out early, but my eventual spouse and I were on the same page: the crazy stops with me.

        My sister had different plans and now has two neurodivergent kids. ᕕ(ᐛ)ᕗ

        • aaaaace@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          4 months ago

          I’m pretty sure that one of my parents and their siblings are all ND. I don’t think it’s terrible, but the unawareness certainly is.

      • Monument@lemmy.sdf.org
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        4 months ago

        You don’t have to die alone!

        You can get sterilized then start (or join) an anarcho-communist polyamorous commune. If you find the right mix of traumas, it can function really well! Or end in fire. But it will be exciting, and you won’t be alone!