From any hopes for a bounceback in career, a healthy love life, a more active friend circle .etc
For me it’s when you start entering your 50s. You start to think more and more in how you’ll end up being as you progress in age. Thoughts of the idea of how to maintain your health and how so much now is going to affect you set in. Thoughts on potentially retiring start setting in.
Things like getting friends and dates won’t be impossible, but they’ll be incredibly hard to get. Even if you have either, they most likely will not turn out how you expect to be whereas when you were younger, you had the time and energy on your side.
Careers and where you’ll work will just dry up where you could likely be stuck just doing retail work for the remainder of your life or any minimum wage position.
Very few people make a difference in their 50s or already had their life planned out to where they’re fine in their 50s. But a lot of the time, people really don’t.
whatever age it is that you die
It’s over if you decide it’s over. I’ve known people in their late 20’s who have given up on all that already. And I’ve known folks well into their 70’s who are happily married/dating, traveling, doing hobbies, healthy, etc.
If you give up on life, then of course you won’t get anything out of it. I hate how people act like getting older just means you become boring, weak, ugly, broken down, slow, etc.
If your life is over when you turn 50, it’s because you chose to let it be over.
Wondering how old OP is, where they live, why they expect to be so lonely at 50.
10-20 years older than my current age. The number keeps moving as I get older.
As a kid: grown ups are lame.
College age: I never wanna be middle aged.
In the workforce: I can’t wait to retire and do nothing. EtcI don’t think it has to do with age. More like with your mental state and what you have gone through.
When you get too old to take care of yourself and have to go into assisted living; you’re basically waiting to die at that point. Until then you can do whatever tf you want.
I think there’s not really a hard and fast expiration date. I think it’s more of a probability gradient which can skew from person to person. Career bounceback depends on industry, fitness, credentials, network, etc. Love life depends on personality, looks, intent, intelligence, sense of humor, stability, etc. A loser in their 40s can’t even really compete with somebody in their 60s who’s on top of their shit.
I think that if you’re concerned about this, therapy and/or meditation might help you to get uncomfortable enough to identify aspects of yourself that need work to improve. Small changes can yield big advantages in terms of tackling specific goals. Everybody can benefit from therapy, so don’t let some weird stigma scare you out of getting the best out of life.
For me it’s when you start entering your 50s. You start to think more and more in how you’ll end up being as you progress in age. Thoughts of the idea of how to maintain your health and how so much now is going to affect you set in. Thoughts on potentially retiring start setting in.
Fuck, that’s depressing. Basically just giving up at that point. Then what, just watch old TV shows until you expire? I’m hoping to get a little bit more out of life than that.
Honestly, my biggest fear is ageism in employment. I kind of assume at some point I’ll have to start my own company or something like that to be able to continue working.
I’d say it’s individual.
For anybody, I’d generally say at death. Even later in life you can still pick up at least some interesting hobbies, which will also help you find friends. I know a lot of people in ham radio and postage stamp collecting are older, already retired, yet they also attract young people.
Sure, learning may get harder, but the amount of free time will compensate for it.
You’re still a person, no matter if you’re 10, 20, 50, 80,… and you’re not the only one. So life just ends with death.Myself? I don’t know. I can’t encourage myself. It feels like I am late to anything. I never dated, yet most people I know did so in middle school already. I didn’t yet learn any programming, yet I know people who did so since they were 13. One of my teachers was already fixing computers for others for money when he was just 10. I know someone who got CCNA certification mid high school. I know one 16 year old who seems to just know everything related to networking and self-hosting.
Meanwhile I only got my first proper computer when I was 14 and barely knew the concept of operating system. In 2 days I finally got Linux Mint installed on it, but I didn’t even know what a partition is.
It just feels like I am dumb and late to absolutely anything at this point.
Since I’ve spent like the past 1-2 years spiralling down into these thoughts, for myself I’d say 16-17 (I am 18 now). I just wish to be dead.But if you’re asking because you feel like your life already ended, I am pretty sure you can still get back. You’re definitely not the only one feeling like that, and that alone already unites you with a bunch of people.
