There is always a well-known solution to every human problem - neat, plausible, and wrong.

H. L. Mencken

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  • I have no issue telling people I’m not doing good if that is the truth. The meal example I can’t say. Telling the truth there would be the right thing to do according to my principles but a situation like that almost never occurs - at least it hasn’t for me over the past 7 years or so. Therefor I can’t say that I absolutely would.

    However, I’ve answered truthfully to even more uncomfortable questions than that in the past - regarding people’s appearance for example - so from that perspective I see no reason why I wouldn’t.

    I’m unsure how I feel about a lie by omission. For me the point has always been not to actively deceive people by telling them something that’s not true. I’m not obligated to tell everything that’s on my mind. I can also just say that I don’t want to answer. However if I evade answering the thing they are asking by dancing around it then that would count as deception.

    Would you want to be lied to if your guest didn’t like the food you served to them at all?



  • Depends how you define lying. If you mean saying things that you know to be untrue then I would disagree that it’s necessary.

    I read a book about lying around 7 years ago and it was making the argument that it’s only justifiable when used to prevent greater harm, the classic example there being Nazis on your door asking if you have Anne Frank in the attic. Other than that it’s always wrong and often completely unnecessary. Applies to white lies as well.

    The only single time I’ve lied since then was reflexively telling a beggar that I didn’t have any cash. Again, completely unnecessary. In fact I’ve not lied for so long that lying doesn’t even come to mind anymore as an option when handling a situation. People can tell that they’re not going to like what I’m about to say next before I even say it because they can see me hesitate and carefully choose my words. They don’t always like hearing it but not one person has cut ties because of it - rather the opposite. They now come to me when they want the truth.

    Additional benefit of this is that it makes me carefully consider my own behaviour so that I don’t need to lie about it later.

    Again, not lying doesn’t mean speaking everything that’s on your mind. It simply means not saying things you know to be untrue.





  • Last time I was searching for a job I didn’t even look for ones with open positions. There’s so many people applying that I won’t even bother. I simply looked up a company I wanted to work for and cold-emailed them with a free-form application. I didn’t even attach a CV or anything. The second company I emailed called me in for an interview. I’ve previously also just gone to the physical location and asked face to face. If they tell me to send an email application I say that I won’t and then go to the next place.

    Every time I bring this up I get ridiculed for my boomer advice yet somehow I’m not the one ever complaining about unemployment or financial struggles.

    Nowadays I run my own company and if I ever hire an employee it’s not going to be someone who sent me a formal application. It’s someone who calls me asking for work while also demonstrating genuine enthusiasm about it. I could not care less what their credentials are - I want someone who is motivated and takes pride in their work.