My Queer Platonic Partner was just told, "They have disabilities but are not disabled"

This was their doctor when trying to get food stamps. (Needless to say they are getting a new one) But, like, holy shit, we are in hell.

You can’t fucking win. You do anything? Oh, you are not really disabled. You do nothing? You are obviously faking it and being lazy. You just cannot fucking win.

In a just society, we would be able to hit these people with our mobility aids as hard as we could

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that is infuriating.

I guess the doctor was trying to say, “you might not have this ability, but you can use one of your other abilities ”

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