I’ve seen this sort of behavior from supposed ally gay men way too many times.
cis gay men are like a half-step away from being straight, as far as societal acceptance goes, but they often act like they’re still a strongly oppressed minority. it’s really disheartening to see some of them playing oppression olympics with other queer people instead of going to bat for us with the straights.
Yeah, it’s really fucking annoying and yet typical. I’ve never really known gay men to act in any other way, honestly.
Might just be because of my age/time spent in the queer community - I would suspect that in many ways younger gay men who have grown up with much much more social acceptance may actually be WORSE about this then ones who are even 10~ years older.
That said from what I’ve read gay men have never treated trans women particularly well, as a trend. Unexamined misogyny and in particular transmisogyny seems to have been an issue even in the worst stages of homophobic oppression. Lesbians have always been much better about that stuff, despite the cultural prominence of TERF lesbians.
cis gay men are like a half-step away from being straight, as far as societal acceptance goes, but they often act like they’re still a strongly oppressed minority. it’s really disheartening to see some of them playing oppression olympics with other queer people instead of going to bat for us with the straights.
Yeah, it’s really fucking annoying and yet typical. I’ve never really known gay men to act in any other way, honestly.
Might just be because of my age/time spent in the queer community - I would suspect that in many ways younger gay men who have grown up with much much more social acceptance may actually be WORSE about this then ones who are even 10~ years older.
That said from what I’ve read gay men have never treated trans women particularly well, as a trend. Unexamined misogyny and in particular transmisogyny seems to have been an issue even in the worst stages of homophobic oppression. Lesbians have always been much better about that stuff, despite the cultural prominence of TERF lesbians.