I look at this meme every time I get sad that I didn’t transition earlier
I don’t love this meme.
I prefer some variation of “The best time to do it was yesterday, the second best time to do it is today”
Which is to say, I don’t perceive that my late in life transition happened when it “meant” to. It happened when it could. And I’m so glad it happened at all! But if transphobia hadn’t have gripped the world so hard, it also wouldn’t have been as late as it was.
I mean, agreed on all points, but sometimes I get really sad about how late in life I’m transitioning and I like to imagine gandalf comforting me about it.
Sure, it is deeply unfair how transphobia hinders us to be ourselves and makes us so ashamed of ourselves. And on top of that many of us also feel a lot of internal pressure of going against the shame and transphobia. I feel like this meme is a good way of alleviating at least some of this pressure. And saying “the best time of transitioning was yesterday” would make me feel bad about myself because it gives in to that pressure.
For me, saying that I transitioned “when I was meant to” just doesn’t land right, because I know it’s not when I was meant to. Making me wait all that time wasn’t the right thing, it wasn’t what was “meant” to be.
From my perspective, in an ideal world, “yesterday” was the time to transition. But the world isn’t ideal, and it made that impossible, so “today” is what I was able to achieve despite the world trying to get in the way! (though “today” was 9 years ago for me)
Damn right, never too late, but my brainworms tells me it would have been better sooner :3
