• RiotDoll [she/her, she/her]@hexbear.net
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    4 months ago

    i used to think pornography was causing my kinks to spin out of control, back when the sex i had was non reciprocal oral sex and the rare (bad) hookup pre-transition

    once I started having sex, and hoo boy - the first real sex i had was a three way - I learned that “i can crank one off to this” and “I am into this as a lived experience” are very different.

    Reading this kind of thing just makes me think of the presumption that my pornographic interests were a near 1:1 map of my actual kinks

    I think this guy is a bit silly lol. he looked at porn and basically made himself comfortable with his own urges and then freaked out and blamed the porn instead of his repression

    • Des [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.net
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      4 months ago

      somehow like 90% of my partners both hook ups and relationships (mono or poly) were into similar kinks to me i was either seeing it out or get insanely lucky

      but i get that feeling that’s how i felt pre human contact but it was earlier internet era so at first I thought I was mentally damaged or something