• jqubed@lemmy.world
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    11 days ago

    So was he saying he didn’t need to be paid anymore to be his friend or the friendship money was past due and the account needed to be settled for the friendship to continue?

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    I’ve never understood this obsession with massive, flashy, expensive birthday parties with hired entertainers and dozens of invitations. Is it an American thing? Do other cultures have this?

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      11 days ago

      I (non-american but western country) had “large” parties way back in primary school (around 5 to 10 y.o.), because at that point everyone was just little kids and so there were no cliques or anything like that, so it would be impolite not to invite your whole class - but after that point no, it would usually be like 5 people at maximum for a bit of a chill hangout.

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      11 days ago

      Lots of cultures have big parties for specific birthday milestones, eg Bar Mitzvahs and Quinceañeras.

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      10 days ago

      Yeah, I remember reading something, like 20ish years ago, about a woman from a wealthy family in NYC, that is a wildly paranoid adult, because her mom basically paid everyone to be her friend, planned, and paid for, their social events, and did so until she found out in her mid 20s. It wasn’t even because she was unpopular and lonely. This started when she was a toddler. Her mom just wanted complete control of everyone she interacted with, and what they did, as much as she possibly could. When she found out she just mentally imploded.

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      I went to a kids party in middle school. I was the only one to come. His parents gave me like $40 on my way out. As a kid I had no idea what the fuck was going on so I just took the money.

      Doesn’t matter had cake.