• peoplebeproblems@midwest.social
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    Constant flashbacks to the discovery of it? Nightmares? Vulnerability issues? Trust issues you never had before? Inability to watch porn because it reminds you of the pleasure you had violently ripped from your memory?

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      When I was still trying to make it work (fucking dumb in hindsight) pretty much all of the above. After the fact I had severe issues building new relationships, took trauma out on a few girls that absolutely didn’t deserve it. Took me years to build trust with the woman I’m now married to. Definitely suffered flashbacks and nightmares for years.

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        Yeah I’m just going to be alone until the divorce finalizes and I get used to the whole handing the kid off. 5 fucking years of therapy and counseling and shit and I still wake up sweating and yelling at my ex in my separate place.