

Yup, that’s the idea.
Pronouns: He/Him (by convenience)
I’m in the process of regaining some social abilties online. The fediverse and no connection to my civil ID did wonders in this regard, despite my disposition to anxious ruminations and my weak social stamina. Anyway, happy to join a safe space to be open about my queerness.
From what I gathered, I can describe my identity and orientations as: bisexual, polyamorous, trigender, demiboy (I’m a.m.a.b byt he way.), non-binary, isogender, demicisgender. (Both cisgender and transgender seem to hardly fit my identity.) I’m also closeted.
Centralized profile on pronouns.cc : https://pronouns.cc/@un_trop_vert_timide


Yup, that’s the idea.


By the way, although being a IT techie, I didn’t even intend to make it a tech joke. That’s just professionnal deformation I didn’t even notice before reading the first comment.
I rarely even directly touch HTML code. (My devs are more middleware oriented, even though they are related to web apps and services.)


True, forgot this one. To combine, a multi-dimensional slider ? (Beacause while being a spectrum, gender isn’t a single axis defined by two discreet points.


Sooo, the US government’s new propaganda tool are games inherited from the terrible sexual or violent “adult” “games” so common from the 1980s to the 2000s ? I mean crap like the Postal series or so-called “mature” games which were just bad games with a discriminatory content decorated with sex or additional violence. (Take a popular or simple type of game, create a very low quality game of this type, then slap a porny or gory skin on it, insert many sexist, sexual, and racists joke, and voilà!)


The joke in my question is that I actually match all three options at the same time. (The joy of being trigender man + women + undetermined_NB.)


But why is it a radio button, instead of a checkbox? Snif.


For those into (not porny) dating sims, Date Everything very probably has both. (I have only discovered a very small part of the characters for now, so I have not verified it.) Warning though: every NPC in this game is an anthropomorphised domestic thing (objects, appliances, dust, etc).
Stardew Valley’s expansion mod Ridgeside Village instroduces a ftm character. I will not say his name for spoiler reasons, but he’s quite a touching character IMHO. (Well, although unoffical, he is a befriendable and romanceable Stardew Valley character after all.)


I didn’t see this one coming… And I should have.
Glad to see you feel better.


Chiming in just to express my support, long with the other commenters.
It seems that you’ve at least found a tupportive and minful community here. I wish you to find one IRL too if that’s not already the case. A good community really helps being well, happy, and attenuating anxiety.
I also wish that your family learn to identify and avoid hurtful acts and words.
In other words, I wish you conditions that help being at least safe and happy.
(Again, sorry if my message is clumsy.)


How does it work with non binary / isogender gender configuration (including agender, multigender, etc) and with gender fluidity ?
Well, considering that “transgender” and “non-binary” are both umbrella terms describy a great variety of experiences, it would be hard. NB even lies ousidet of the classical concepts of gender (at least in the cultures inheriting from the biggest colonial empires). So it’s hard to undertand all who are under these umbrellas.
I am not able to properly communicate how I experience my own non binarity. I just, for as long I can remember thinking about my gender, have undertood myself as mostly a man but with fractions of me that were not a man. (three gender in toal) But how to make it understandable to someone that doesn’t share the same experience ? I genuinely don’t know. Even more complicated, even though I have a dominant gender (man), it is mostly linked to my body. I think my main gender would very easily switch if my body magically switched to be mainly female or mainly asexual. (Beware the polysemy, i’m not talking about the asexual orientation.) I guess I do not feel that connected to the notion of gender itself.
For the daily struggle, well… Let’s just say I’m quite lucky I pass well as a white cishet monoromantic man, and don’t suffer from gender dysphoria to my knowledge. And although I currently hae no IRL community to discuss with freely about this kind of experience, that’s mainly because of social difficulties unrelated to my queerness.
All that, though, is the individual experience of a single enby. It cannot and must not be generalized in any way.
Would I be able to understand the experience of another enby ? Maybe, maybe not, it will depend on said experience. Same thing means I don’t fully understand transgender experiences. I understand what transgender people manage to communicate, and I learn from that. But since I don’t share their experiences, some aspects will always elude me. Still the same thing with the cisgender experience. I easily understand what can be externally observed, because the society I live in is built around cisgender people with traditionnal roman catholic christian gender roles.
The good thing is : fully understanding someone is not a necessary condition to fully accept and fully respect them. (But it is a contributing factor.)


Nothing but the true truth.


Good. Not enough, but good.


Exactly why I created a new internet identity when I joined the fediverse with the intent to be open about myself.
My usual web identities are too tied to my civil identity, and the socio-political context in France is not so good, while still better than in the USA.
Moreover, I don’t come from a very tolerant social background. I had to be really independant to begin deconstructing my previously learned biases. (A never ending effort.)
Which one are you
- Male
- Female
- Walmart Bag
Somehow all of the above ? (Except I never had anything to do with Walmart. Wrong country.)
Isn’t that a possible reason why my my
e/OS/phone can’t send text messages, nor call, some numbers. (In France, where many people use meta shit like whatsapp and facebook messenger, and won’t be interested in another messenging app like signal, delta chat, etc)