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  • This is not quite universal! My wife in particular does not like assigning people on how to help her, as that is additional cognitive load on how to make someone useful to you, she much prefers people either stay out of her way, or help by just looking with their eyes and see what needs to be done.

    Do agree they need to know what they are doing too, having someone who doesn’t know how to chop veggies the way you like them and just start doing is definitely no good, but after sometime cooking with your partner you should know what needs doing and how to do it.


  • magiccupcake@lemmy.worldtoCoupleMemes@sh.itjust.works•Love is letting me cook alone
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    4 months ago

    Nah, cooking with my wife is great. And it’s best when neither of us necessarily has to delegate tasks. Figuring out which tasks need to be done and and which order can sometimes be a huge cognitive load! That’s why if you ask someone what can you do to help they might get mad, you’ve asked them to take on the mental load of how to make you useful.

    Instead a much better approach is too look at what they are doing and think for yourself what needs to be done! Uncut veggies that need to be chopped, ask if they want you to chop the veggies. Dishes piling up in the sink? Ask them if they want you to clean the dishes. Are they making something that needs boiling water, like pasta or potatoes? Go ahead and get a pot of water boiling. It’s much better for someone helping to not just complete the task, but to identify it too.

    With my partner we often swap between different styles, if it’s something she wants, she’s in charge but I still try to find ways to help without her asking to do it. Other times the roles are reversed and she’s helping me. For big events like Thanksgiving, we are both overwhelmed and will often know what needs to be done and just do it, no one’s in charge, we are approaching this like a team.

    If your partner never wants you in the kitchen, it’s probably because you’re useless and have to be babied to handle the simplest of tasks. (Which is not always bad, not everyone can cook, but everyone should be able to do dishes!) Or in a really small kitchen where there just isn’t space.

    But the same is true if you are a guest, my friends have gotten pretty good at seeing what needs doing and will just do it! Helping with the dishes, setting the table, making cocktails, etc. Making themselves useful without adding to someone’s cognitive load that is hosting people or making a meal. However it is very frustrating when a guest who is not familiar asks how they can help, they don’t know where anything belongs, so they cannot effectively complete any tasks without being micromanaged, including dishes, because some things can’t go in the dishwasher and they won’t know what those are! The best things guest can do in these scenarios is usually to bring already made items, like drinks, or prepare them ahead of time, or only need widely available appliances to finish, like 10 minutes in an oven to brown a casserole.





  • magiccupcake@lemmy.worldtoScience Memes@mander.xyz•Aaaaaaaaaa
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    Yeah your just missing two key facts here. One, yeah europe is still getting warmer, AMOC hasn’t collapsed. Two, the conditions for maintaining a convective current are significantly easier than starting one. So if AMOC collapses and Greenland ice stops melting, there’s no guarantee AMOC will restart. And even if it does, it could take centuries.


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    6 months ago

    AMOC is weakening because of salinity changes, not temperature. There’s still a lot of glacier ice on Greenland that melt and disrupt the current.

    AMOC carries a lot of heat that is not likely to be replaced if it fails. Atmosphere convection doesn’t have the heat capacity, so only logical conclusion is that temperatures in europe must drop. And based on research people have done, it’s not gonna be a small amount.

    If you want a fun math (and a little physics) exercise, we can estimate how much heat AMOC carries from the equator to northern europe, and also try to see how much air it’s heating in the atmosphere. From here it gets a bit more complicated as we have to estimate the the incoming solar radiation and earths radiative cooling. But from there you could compare estimated temperatures with and without AMOC heating.




  • magiccupcake@lemmy.worldtoScience Memes@mander.xyz•Damn
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    Newton’s laws, including gravity and motion, can be expressed in terms of differential equations.

    Differential equations pretty much requires calculus, which just hadn’t been formalized yet.

    Newton’s laws also provide convincing reasons for the necessity and legitimacy of calculus, by being able to derive orbits from his simple laws.



  • These people got caught because someone found their car and thus license plate.

    Another had left a fingerprinted bottle that went missing when watching surveillance footage.

    And then were able to confirm after finding the same outfit from the surveillance footage.

    The lessons to be learned are to not use cars anywhere near the scene, leave no trace, fingerprints or digital evidence, including a phone, and make sure any recognizable clothing is well hidden, or even better thoroughly destroyed.

    Oh and don’t post anything on social media.




  • Try and flip the fantasies on their head.

    Try looking for odd quirks and mannerisms that bother you and imagine how annoying it would be to be with a partner that does those things all the time.

    Look for the particular ways they want to be cared for in the manner and how you would not be suitable to meet them, and that they might be happier with someone else.

    Also just spend more time with them, and the infatuation will either fade or you’ll realize you do really like them, which is OK, let them know, and it’s OK if it’s not reciprocal (though this is actually quite hard as a lot of women are conditioned to not believe men who say this).