itchick2014 [Ohio]

IT nerd and synthesizer player from Ohio. Reddit refugee, here to stay.

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  • While this is stereotypically true, my grandparents that passed away 14 years ago were avid gamers. They adored their NES and bought a SNES when the NES died. I think it is worth inquiring with local nursing homes to see if they have anyone that has gaming experience. My grandma’s favorite game was Loopz. Grandpa’s was golf. Puzzle games especially are good for that age group as they keep the brain busy but don’t necessarily require adept fine motor speed like other genres.








  • To me, brain fog feels like my thoughts are swimming in the subconscious ocean and it takes a lot of energy to dive down and actually comprehend them. It isn’t that the thoughts do not exit, but rather that they are outside of reach of use until significant mental effort is undergone to reach them. Using those thoughts for any purpose then requires even more mental energy…energy that feels like the mental equivalent of walking up the stairs…it seems easy for the first few steps but progressively gets harder until at some point, if you haven’t used the thoughts yet, you just give up out of sheer exhaustion.







  • As someone who knows someone who was killed as a pedestrian crossing the road…it is not your fault. Don’t forget that fact. Trauma does weird things to our brains even without head injury. Don’t feel guilty about pursuing a lawsuit either. It was the other person’s responsibility to be watchful and follow traffic laws…and they failed. Repercussions are normal in such circumstances even if it is an honest mistake. Hope that you don’t feel any more pain or have more unseen issues. Sometimes these things take time to surface. If you feel unexplainably sleepy at any point, don’t hesitate to see a doctor. Sometimes head trauma isn’t obvious. Wish you the best and hope you recover quickly and thoroughly.


  • As someone who still hasn’t come out to my ultra Christian parents, yep. I took the path that was all I knew was acceptable. Luckily my spouse is accepting and mildly excited by my sexuality but the trauma is so strong I haven’t even been comfortable to act on my sexuality because it is just so repressed. I’ve worked through so much via therapy over the years but I still find things that are as described in the article, fight or flight type responses that conflict with what my brain logically can think is right. I really hope that research gets funded for this. They will find that more than just LGBTQ+ individuals will have definitive religious trauma and maybe some day a dollar cost will also be associated with it, not because it has to be but because sometimes money is the only way to get action…sadly.