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  • hexagon527@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoTransmasc@lemmy.blahaj.zone•traditional male spacesEnglish
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    3 个月前

    Are “being a femboy” and “being a trans man” mutually exclusive?

    Nah, not at all, some trans men do identify as femboys or even twinks. Personally I don’t get too into specific labels like that but I don’t care if others see me that way. It can actually be the opposite of dysphoric, because the transphobic types will assume I’m a man who’s trying to be femme or transitioning to a woman and emphatically call me sir like to remind me I’m a man, lol.

    Do people like, openly treat you like that and acknowledge it, or is it more subtle than that?

    Sometimes openly, yeah, I’ve had a coworker ask me if I was gay after weeks of like clearly wanting to say something. But usually it’s more subtle, like in the way some guy in a group will talk to the other guys different from the way I get spoken to, or they share looks between each other like “this fuckin guy, eh.” Or they’ll joke about how I might need help lifting something because of how lanky I am. I’m obviously the bookish nerdy type not into sports and going to the gym, and I don’t have a big build.

    places like comic book shops or sports teams or garages/autohobby shops. I guess like, not places that specifically exclude women, but places where its more common to see groups of men

    In my experience the treatment isn’t that bad. It’s like any time you’re out among people you don’t know, people are just polite. Maybe if I was on a sports team or went to the gym a lot it’d be different.

  • hexagon527@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoTransmasc@lemmy.blahaj.zone•traditional male spacesEnglish
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    3 个月前

    Thanks. Yeah trans men get so much shit, I don’t even wanna get into it… What would you consider a traditional male space? The only place I can think of is the gym, but women go there too.

    Either way… I don’t really go out much though, tbh. I’m mostly a loner, just go to work, read books, play video games. Sometimes go out to a concert if I have the money. I don’t have any IRL friends.

    In my experience, guys just see me as some gay femboy instead of a trans man. I don’t really come out unless it becomes relevant or I meet another queer person.

  • hexagon527@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoTransmasc@lemmy.blahaj.zone•The Politics of Sex at Birth (or why we should stop saying AMAB and AFAB)English
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    5 个月前

    disclaimer that i’m a transman who’s not nonbinary…

    i think we still need these terms, but it’s all in how they’re used. for example when this host says “…unless it’s a part of my journey as a human being” and that’s how i feel it should/could be relevant. sometimes trans people are just shooting the shit and are comfortable enough with each other to talk about their transition journey in this way, especially when describing problems they might have had along the way.

    i agree it’s not really something i would share with a nosy cis person or a nosy anyone. but this is like putting an unnecessary blanket restriction on how people should discuss gender when the community is a spectrum and not everyone is uncomfortable with these terms.