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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Oh they absolutely are the worst.

    I’m sorry to hear that, those types are so much trouble to deal with. I had a deeply narcissistic roommate in college who felt they always knew what others were feeling/thinking. They got quite abusive by the end and it really messed me up for a while. All that to say, I know that type of pain.

    I think maybe narcissistic types tend to seek out patient, understanding people. Maybe consciously they think they’re looking for love and understanding, but unconsciously it seems like they’re looking for people they can reliably abuse when they’re having a bad day, y’know?

    I don’t put up with those sorts anymore, it makes life much simpler.


  • As an allistic person who also puts lots of effort into being understanding and prefers to be conscious of and verify/disprove my assumptions, I agree that most people are maddening when it comes to this crap. I can have a full, detailed breakdown of my internal state ready to go and they’ll just project onto me if they’re riled up enough to not really be listening.

    I’ve found the best trick you can pull when somebody does that is to find what you agree with them about and talk about that for a while. Once their head cools off a bit more and the conversation cools back down to normal emotional temperature, you can calmly tell them how you were really feeling and how it hurts to be misunderstood like that. Usually that elicits an embarrassed apology, from adults. If it doesn’t, they probably don’t want to be your friend, they wanted to be your abuser, and you their punching bag.

    All just in my experience, of course.













  • No, I was genuinely guessing at what you were getting at, since you were alluding to one particular unnamed nation that relies heavily on slave labor. IDK if you opened that article, but it’s from last month and is a major report by the AP, so US slave labor’s been on my mind because I read the news.

    You then seemingly got annoyed at my guess and decided it was some sort of debate. I pointed out why my guess was reasonable and now you’re trying to take a victory lap because I apparently annoyed you by not being a goddamn mind reader.

    Seriously, you’re acting like I’m the one with the attitude here and all I’ve done is reflect yours back to you in one comment because you acted like I don’t know what slavery is. But I’m the one being an asshole?