yes, thank you for making sure I saw it!

It definitely gets the idea across. It’s disturbing to me that a video like this even needs to be made, it makes me want to study how things got to this point, why people view sex differently, etc.

I know people IRL that are like this, it’s always shocking to me the way even decent men (kind men, liberal men, emotionally sensitive men) are just so entitled and blind to the way they expect the woman to do all the housework…

Honestly I don’t see a relationship like that working in the long term, I think it undermines marriages and builds resentment, it’s a shitty and impractical approach as well as unjust.

It only “works” as long as the woman is willing to subject herself to that, but no matter how much she tries it is going to be exhausting and create problems in the long run. (If not total failure of the relationship, at least increased instability and conflict. )

Unfortunately then it makes it look like the woman is at fault, when things fail because she just can’t keep going, especially when the man just thinks this arrangement is “normal”. The victim becomes the bad-guy and is easy to blame (when someone is at the end of their ability to keep going they don’t always act in the best ways - they probably get angry, or spiteful, or cold - either way it’s easy for the man to think the problem is the woman).

But men sometimes get even worse notions in their head, I listened to a man complain once about (trigger warning: sexual assault) how women he let stay at his place were so awful for not understanding the “obvious” rule that if someone lets you stay at their house they have a right to have sex with you any time they want. Honestly it sounds like he initiated sex non-consensually and was frustrated when the woman didn’t go along. I was so shocked and then scared I didn’t say anything, but this kind of thinking among men is terrifying and I worry more common than is comfortable to consider.

confirmed, I am myself ✅

omg, I’m so glad to finally have this clarified - I had wondered which name you preferred 😅 CheeseToastie is still a super cute name, though 😄

I, um, I’m not sure actually 😅

hi, thanks for your witty comment 😄

unfortunately this community only allows women to comment and post, so I’ve removed your comment. Hope you understand 🧡

🤢🤢🤢 yikes

oh I know exactly what you mean 😵 the brodude types can be awful even to one another, the incessant talking over one another makes me want to scream, lol

I swear the higher incidence of neurodivergence among programmers has something to do with the increased likelihood of their mansplaining, something about the pedantic, socially-unaware, info-dumping often comes across that way 🫠

thank you for your contribution, but this community is for women only, hope you understand ❤️

Thank you for your contribution, but this community is for women only, hope you understand 😊

Hi there, while we appreciate your comment, we only allow women to post and comment in this community. Thanks for understanding!

naked under overalls is the way to go 😆

I would probably never leave my home if I had a choice 😅 I am known for being a hermit.

huzzah! Let the good vibrations begin! 🥳

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Hey, it sounds like you were trying to improve things at work and you were punished for it - as hard as it is to lose your job, it’s probably good that you won’t stick around there in the long term.

I hope you’re able to find a good job, too - maybe moving to a different region where the culture is better could help, or changing careers, etc. I know not everyone has the same options and opportunities, but I just hope you don’t get too discouraged - life is really strange, sometimes it just takes persistence to eventually find the right place for you.

Meanwhile, take comfort that you were doing all the right things and keep up the good work 💕

I would wait the minimum of 6 weeks and then if it doesn’t seem inflamed you can start trying out different jewelry.

It depends on how much inflammation you get when you switch the piercings - you want to avoid anything that causes inflammation. If there is inflammation in response to trying different earrings, maybe put the posts back in and let it heal longer.

Spraying the site with sterile saline (like in the shower) is a good way to keep it clean and anecdotally it seemed to help bring down my inflammation - doing that once in the morning and once in the evening can really help.

I think it’s important you clean your jewelry really well before putting it in (70% isopropyl alcohol does the trick).

Also make sure you’re still wearing the post at night when you sleep so the hole doesn’t close.

In those early days you might want to make sure the material of any jewelry you try on is hypoallergenic and safe for healing, ideally surgical steel or titanium. (Avoid brass, silver, or gold.)

EDIT: and my top advice would be to look up the best piercing place near you and give them a visit. If they’re good, they should have lots of surgical steel and titanium pieces you can buy, and they should be able to answer your questions about jewelry that would be safe to wear while it’s still healing, and they can look at your ears and make recommendations.

You’re looking for a place where the piercers are all trained (bonus for medical training), licensed, and engaged in continuing education.

the advertisers, they’re going to come for you at night?

Last night I picked up my partner at the airport, surprised them with flowers and special frozen desserts. It’s always good to be reunited with a loved one 🥰