It’s a thing about humanity. Sunrise on a heliocentric solar system looks the same as geocentric. And yet every single culture put us in the middle. It could have been 50-50 but instead we were all wrong together.

My point is that we see what we want. No, don’t change the words to suit them.

Just don’t explain anything and you don’t have to worry. At work only interact with your own gender and never be alone with the opposite. Better to be safe than sorry.

I have never liked the term. I am also in a technical role and feel like if I say anything to a women at work I will be yelled at.

Like okay I had to go to speech therapy for years the very fact that I can talk at all is a miracle of medical science. Any other time in human history I would be effectively mute. So now I am working with someone, I have to not only figure out the answer to their question I have to spend all this effort to get my mouth to move to say the answer and if I explain it even slightly wrong I am an awful person who deserves to have their life ruined.

I don’t know what you don’t know. Sometimes I am not going to simplify my answer not enough sometimes I am going to simplify it too much. I am going to make a mistake and for that I am sorry.

Frankly I do avoid it because I don’t want to be accused of something. If I don’t interact I can’t interact incorrectly.