It can be a grooming process…

This is the worst part. A skilled abuser can groom a victim to the point she thinks his violence is HER fault. And other people saying “why don’t you just leave him” are not helping.

Yeah, hence my reference to the “no assholes rule” dismissal. This guy was a brodude. This predated all the social media world, but if it had been today he’d have totally been some kind of startup founder “disrupting” something by “moving fast and breaking things” while callously destroying lives for a buck.

I think there’s some of that. These would be the “geek” styles, though. Not the brodude types.

I like the geek programmers. (I can read past the awkwardness.) Brodude types, though, make my skin crawl.

I’d only wear overalls when doing something that calls for them. I’m too old to view them as fashion items. 😅

Ugh. The people who think I don’t know about web sites or technologies because I don’t use them really tick me off.

Programmers, with whom I’d worked with my early career (about a dozen years) are particularly prone to mansplaining. The worst case was a candidate for a “no assholes rule” dismissal who in the course of one company pizza lunch:

1. Told me what marketing “really” was. (I have a degree in it. He doesn’t.)
2. Gave me repeated unsolicited advice on how to market the company’s products.
3. Told me that my marketing campaign for one product (his) was garbage and that I should talk to the person who did the marketing for another product to learn how to “do it right”. I did the marketing for that other product too…
4. Also told me how much make-up I should use and how to apply it because apparently he’s an expert on feminine health and beauty.

I mentioned the “no assholes rule” I think? He was later canned for being an asshole, despite his apparently very formidable technical skills.

OK, all y’all can stop holding your breaths now.

This is an unusual one and I think you can see now why it took so long to assemble. She’s a FORMIDABLE woman.

I’m shaping up my next Kick-Ass Woman from History post. I think it’s going to be at LEAST as inspiring as my last one.

OK, I’m going to put this gently.

Seeing the point, understanding the point, then continuing to belabour it because you think the terminology is incorrect is called “pedantry”.

Please stop being a pedant.

I’m sorry you aren’t seeing the problem.

Oh, and my SO got terrified with some of the pelvic lifts I was doing. I can now almost casually throw him off me without using my arms. 🙃

Yeah, my squats and deadlifts developed in no time flat. It surprised both me and my trainer. (Hence the “sturdy peasant legs” crack.) I could probably have taken it to double but that would have put an unpleasantly unbalanced look and feel to my lower body. My back developed well too, but I hit a wall hard at the chest and it stayed there. I can’t break it. :(

Getting away with it without being caught.

Camile Paglia: The reason there is no female Mozart is the same as the reason there’s no female Jack the Ripper.

Women: Hold our beer.

Weirdly I’ve never developed the napping habit. If I try to nap I wake up feeling worse than when I started off. My SO knows that if I’m voluntarily napping that something is badly wrong with me.

Mine’s lightning-struck jujube tree. It allows me to fly safely in thunderstorms.

Hello, fellow hag!

So which broomstick do you favour!? 😄

Commando?

🤣 I’m 59! 🤣

I just have the heart of a child. (Insert Stephen King’s joke here.)

I started lifting in October '23 after a former student of mine opened a small gym and invited me to train with him. I entered it thinking “my sport involves lifting heavy objects and putting them back down again” and now think “wow, there’s so much technique and knowledge needed to do this effectively and safely”.

And I can squat and deadlift about 60% more than my body weight (as my trainer put it: I was gifted with “sturdy peasant legs”, the bastard!) I can do rows of various forms with about 60% of my body weight (thought I hate my life for a few days after back day), but I can’t crack 80% of my body weight with bench presses. 😥 I’m at about where I want to comfortably be so now I just maintain, not build.

So if you’re lifting, good on you. It’s one of those things you can do to look and feel better both that doesn’t take a huge amount of time compared to doing cardio (which by definition needs huge chunks of time: I hate cardio day!).

Partially because I stopped smearing industrial chemicals on my skin willy-nilly, I like the fact that I can pass as being in my late 40s.