How is that slavery? In a sane country, military service is actually a great tool to teach young adults how to behave within a diverse group and give life skills many lack at that age. In my homeland military service is only mandatory for men and i think it’s a shame and sexist that because I’m a woman I’m considered too fragile to do it.

There’s one in my kids’ bathroom. Can’t wait to reno the room and get rid of rid. Especially as the tub got a shit half broken tap but for some reason the bidet has a fancy working one. According to my daughter it’s there to flood the parquet and transform the room in a giant pool for her mermaid Barbie.

I’ll check my subscription but Im pretty sure Proton doesn’t calculate when I ovulate.

In specialised Reddit communities. Either you bound with people over a hobby or something pretty simple. Like you’re in the same bumper group or are both into that sub about blue heeler dogs. That kind of thing. You’ll usually find regular people there not some type nutjob you can find in some ultra niche community. But you’ll also have to accept not many people are as versed as you in privacy nor willing to comply with all your request for private communications and you might have to dial it down.

Congrats ! Making friends as an adult is so hard.

Not being a native English speaker, by local establishments do you mean she’s a waitress or a bartender?

As an adult, I got 3 ways to make friends, even superficial ones : work, parents association where I usually get a position at the bureau to get to a big pool of people around my age and possible common interests, sports. If you’re unhappy and it reflects on the outside people may unfortunately not want to start a convo with you. Would a move be possible?

As an adult, I got 3 ways to make friends, even superficial ones : work, parents association where I usually get a position at the bureau to get to a big pool of people around my age and possible common interests, sports. If you’re unhappy and it reflects on the outside people may unfortunately not want to start a convo with you. Would a move be possible?

That’s for a normal uneventful pregnancy. If past these 12 weeks, it is still possible to have an abortion is the pregnancy threatens the mother’s life or if it is later found the baby would suffer from a decease that at that stage the science can’t cure.

And to answer, we rightfully rejoice. We shouldn’t have to carry a child we don’t want nor raise it. And if we do, we should be able to drop them at the ass’s front door who made us go through it by thinking we are mere incubators. If some of your people are sick enough to want to forbid abortion, let them personally raise those children and take the financial burden. And I write this as a woman and mum living in France. It’s time you take the figurative guillotine out of the shed and have them shit their pants.

Well, it’s gonna end up like in France. A numerus clausus was set up in the 70s as doctors were afraid too many doctors would mean less patients and money for them. 50 years later, those now old fucks are now complaining there’s not enough doctors to care for them and that’s true. The wait list to see an ophthalmologist is usually 6mo to 1y long for examples We bring in French speaking doctors from Eastern European and North African countries to help staff our hospitals. Numerus clausus was cancelled in 2020 but we’re in a vicious circle with not big enough infrastructure to teach them: uni amphi are too small, not enough doctors to train them for their rotations in the hospital, etc. So IMO these striking Korean doctors can get bent.

All of my adult friends I met at work. We all live hundred of km away from each other but go to our respective office 2 days a week. And on those days, we have lunch and drinks, they are my children godparents and we talk everyday. As a grown up if you move long distance, it is a lot harder to make friends and keep up with the older ones. You may not have a lot of time because of children especially is they are on the younger side. So your pool to get local mates becomes the school parents and work. It’s a lot easier to determine who you’d like to hang out with with people you spend 8 hours a day 5 days a week that the other mums you only see a few times a week as you all rush off your bicycle to drop you kid at school and have a very superficial relationship with.

For starters, I’ve always lived in major European cities, with good public transports but not necessarily in the city center. As soon as you can be financially independent ie have a work that allows you to pay rent, utilities, food and a little of saving, even if only 50€ a month. I left for uni, came back shortly after graduating as I interned for 6 months and then moved in with a friend. We could go out in the evening after work with our friend group and no one cared at what time I’d come home nor wait for me to ensure I’m safe because I’m a girl and the city can be dangerous depending who you encounter. I was a lot less awkward if I had one night stand in the morning with no hi mum and when I met my now husband and brought him to our shared flat and my roommate had his girlfriend at the same time, it all went great.

My husband left for his studies cross country at 18 yet his mum made everything for him back home: laundry, cooking, cleaning. After he moved and until we met and we bought our first house, he ate pasta ham and rillettes with cakes every single day. Had his grandma who lived 30km away do his weekly laundry. It’s good he’s excellent at house reno as to this day he’s shit at house upkeep. Can’t put a plate in the dish washer, clean the bathrooms or remember his or his children’ bedsheets need to be washed. Do not be my husband. It’s not when you leave that matters but rather be a competent grown up.

I love my parents but couldn’t imagine living with them full time, not paying rent to them and not try to be independent as much as I could. If I had to live with my mother in law, you could find the bitch’s body buried in the back of the garden next to the Japanese apple tree.

Is the government my husband? We have two garages, one is used to store all the family’s bikes, Thule bike trailer and strollers. The second one is full of shit. This morning he said we need a carport to protect the car. The place where I’d personally rather have a carport system covered by solar panels is the train station where I leave my car in the morning to catch my commuting train to work so I don’t burst into flame in the evening in summer and freeze in winter when I return. Plus, electricity. This is my parking minimum.

Not every single mother can breastfeed and if we do, we need to increase a lot our water and food intake in order to have the both supply and for it to have the right nutriments. If this baby’s mum is still alive considering everything going there, with the food and water shortage, it’s quite unlikely she’s lactating.

I don’t. I try to get it sorted as much as I can and have a cleaning person come twice a week to clean the bathrooms, kitchen and mop the floor if they can can manage to see it. And every time my mother in law comes, she frowns and comments how I’m a not tending to my house myself and she did it while working for 60 hours a week.

I know, I’m Swiss and now I live in a country where no one bats an eye when I say I buy studio flats for when my kids will be students and want to live in the city and in the meantime rent them out. The 30k is the auction starting point. But if I could grab it for less than 60k and the have a cost total of 90k max with reno works, that would be splendid.

It’s never go for 30k. I need to calculate how much I can offer for it considering they’ll probably be other people interested and works to be done.

The cheapest livable in Paris, FR would be a 35m2 with two rooms, a kitchen and a tiny basement room for 30k€. It’s actually sold by the courts in April in an auction after being seized for whatever reason and I currently wonder whether I should make an offer for it as it’s so dirt cheap and I could pay it cash.

Depending on which country you live and applicable labor laws, those type of information are available to employees. In France for example, we got CE and CSE who have monthly and special topic meetings with HR and WFH and one of the topics discussed there among a lot others. There’s a third party meeting secretary who notes everything and two weeks later we are sent the full exact write down of the discussions, who was there, who was absent and excused and who said what. It’s usually 30-50 pages long, really instructive and a must read if you want to know what is going on in the company. From negotiations regarding raises, open jobs, services where there are management issues and what’s done to tackle them, wfh, even the state and price of the canteen, input on company results, strategic 5y plan, etc.

We don’t have zoning here like you do in NA. We get more and more new mixed neighbourhoods with family houses (ground floor + first floor usually) sprinkled between mid-size apartments buildings (ground floor + 5 levels on top). There are shops, schools, kg, restaurants and bars in the ground floor of the apt buildings, people living there has a parking spot underneath and are 10 minutes walk from the commuting train. They are all built with an oasis mindset : limited street level parking, trees and walkable paths between the buildings, field type areas between them with lots of trees and grass where people can go enjoy summer and kids can play.

We are a culture of owners so most of the apts and houses are lived in by the people who own them. A few might be real estate investment but if they are rented, it’s for families that stay long term.

Overall, it’s quite nice and I’m quite sad we didn’t build those neighbourhoods in the 70/80s instead of theee gigantic apt complexes with concrete everywhere and next to it rows of houses.

The pay was on par with NYC finance salaries but due to social inflation, i didn’t see how it was worth it to move due to potential medical costs getting out of hand.