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Cake day: July 4th, 2023

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  • I agree with the basic maintenance thing being a chore, but I understand where OP is coming from. So if one person out of the pair decides with previous warning that they want to plant a bunch of stuff then it’s their responsability to take care of them.

    In my situation for example, I live with my partner in an apartment, and the vases are his to maintain and take care of. We’ve talked about where we would live next and my parter wants a yard and I don’t. So I’ve forewarned him that if we have a yard in a future house it belongs to him, and any decisions to move to a house with a yard come with that agreement. This is all very different situation to living in a house with a yard already, or not having the choice when moving for some reason.
















  • In my parents’ house similar to what you said, knifes and forks adjacent and spoons to one side (I don’t remember the exact order). When I moved in with my now husband he said it made more sense to him to have spoons in the middle and I didn’t care that much about it, so we have it like that. I have to say though, I do see an advantage to having the fork, spoon, knife order: when grabbing several pairs (fork and knife) it’s easy to just take each with one with different hands and count them out. And it’s easier once you have knives on the right hand and forks on the left to set a big table with one on each side of the plate.