It’s a terrible term for very real problem of toxic gender roles. I’m not sure if you meant to imply that these roles are only reenforced by other men, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.
Men and women reenforce these gender roles against men and boys, promoting the poor behavior.
I mean, yes and no. There’s biology that drives human behavior, as much as we want to pretend otherwise and physics are responsible for scarcity.
Given our biological programming and scarcity of resources there isn’t an economic system that can “be fair and equal” at any scale beyond hunter gatherer tribes.