Something about this is so terrifying
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I appreciate that. My sister and friends have shown up for me in a huge way these past few days. I’m someone who struggles with social anxiety so my circle is small and I’m not as close as I’d like to be with them, but they’ve treated me like family through this. I don’t think I’d be able to cope healthily without them
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlOPto chat@hexbear.net•Relationship problems have me fucked up and confused rnEnglish2·27 days agoThank you. I don’t think we’re gonna be able to work things out. I have still stood firm in my needs around the yelling thing and wanting to work it over with a therapist, and that led her to say that there is definitely no pause. So it’s over, but I feel a lot more equipped to handle it after all the advice in this thread. This was my first serious relationship and I’m terrified to put myself back out there in the future. I’ve got a lot of pieces I need to pick up but I feel better about doing that now.
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlOPto chat@hexbear.net•Relationship problems have me fucked up and confused rnEnglish4·27 days agoYou’re right I don’t want to put myself back in a situation where I can’t trust fully. I don’t want to wonder if every conflict will end this way. You give me some good points to think about, thank you for sharing your thoughts
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlOPto chat@hexbear.net•Relationship problems have me fucked up and confused rnEnglish2·27 days agoYes sorry for the stream of consciousness. Thank you for your insight; it’s hard to accept where it’s at but you’re right that it’s likely not worth the pain to try to mend something in this state
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlOPto chat@hexbear.net•Relationship problems have me fucked up and confused rnEnglish2·27 days agoYou’re right. I am planning to look into therapy for myself soon, I am starting a new job next week and once I’m paid I will take care of myself in that sense. It’s hard to commit to letting it go but I am making my peace with the situation. The first 72 hours after this surprise were just hard to navigate and I needed help; thank you to you and everybody else here for lending me that.
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlOPto chat@hexbear.net•Relationship problems have me fucked up and confused rnEnglish3·28 days agoI appreciate that. We’re planning to see a therapist together soon to at least discuss what has happened since Friday to give us both closure. And you’re right, it is a blindside to me but clearly something she has been mulling for a while. I appreciate your kind words
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlOPto chat@hexbear.net•Relationship problems have me fucked up and confused rnEnglish7·28 days agoYes I worried about making this post in case people think I want to be told I’m right. I don’t want that at all, because I can’t possibly clue you all in on every detail and nuance. And I don’t want to paint her out unfairly. I just needed an outlet.
I appreciate your outlook on what I wrote. It is very complicated and I was just feeling overwhelmed, so I am thankful for you and everybody else who’s commented for helping me reflect on it all
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlOPto chat@hexbear.net•Relationship problems have me fucked up and confused rnEnglish4·28 days agoThank you for your honest thoughts. I think I’ve known what you’re saying is right, I just can’t help but put on rose tinted glasses and reflect on when times were good. I appreciate your insight.
I’m dealing with similar emotions right now. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It is a beautiful thing to have loved and you will love again. But I know what it feels like to lose your other half. You will rebuild and there will be sunshine again
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlto technology@hexbear.net•Google is ending sideloading on AndroidEnglish4·1 month agoFunnily enough there is a Debian derivative for phones. However it only supports the devices listed here, pretty much the same as other mobile distros like postmarketOS and Ubuntu touch.
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlto news@hexbear.net•Bulletins and News Discussion from August 25th to August 31st, 2025 - The Limits of Electoralism - COTW: BoliviaEnglish21·1 month agoWe WILL sanction ourselves again so help me god don’t make me do it!!
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlto Main, home of the dope ass bear.@hexbear.net•ONE MILLION WORDS FOR $6? WHAT A DEALEnglish5·1 month agoYeah all of these companies are spending vastly more than the revenue they pull in, it’s like a 10x discrepancy between actual cost and what they’re charging to try to sink competitors rn. And it’s only going up
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlto chat@hexbear.net•IS anyone else being troubled by spiders at the moment?English1·2 months agoDiatomic earth can be pretty good at stopping bugs without pesticides
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlto technology@hexbear.net•DeepSeek is not as based as I thought it would beEnglish121·2 months agoThe machine learning models which came about before LLMs were often smaller in scope but much more competent. E.g. image recognition models, something newer broad “multimodal” models struggle with; theorem provers and other symbolic AI applications, another area LLMs struggle with.
The modern crop of LLMs are juiced up autocorrect. They are finding the statistically most likely next token and spitting it out based on training data. They don’t create novel thoughts or logic, just regurgitate from their slurry of training data. The human brain does not work anything like this. LLMs are not modeled on any organic system, just on what some ML/AI researchers assumed was the structure of a brain. When we “hallucinate logic” it’s part of a process of envisioning abstract representations of our world and reasoning through different outcomes; when an LLM hallucinates it is just creating what its training dictates is a likely answer.
This doesn’t mean ML doesn’t have a broad variety of applications but LLMs have gotta be one of the weakest in terms of actually shifting paradigms. Source: software engineer who works with neural nets with academic background in computational math and statistical analysis
I’m moving right now and can confirm. We have a two week gap between leases so we’re also lacking permanent shelter and just couch surfing for the time being. Shit is terrible
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlto Science@hexbear.net•Pop science comparison tropes I'm tired of hearingEnglish4·2 months agoIt’s such clickbait, because even something like an abacus is indeed a digital computer. But still not the most remarkable bit of technology even in ancient cultures
NewOldGuard@lemmy.mlto technology@hexbear.net•What's the problem? Sounds like it's working as intended.English291·2 months agoReminds me of how LLMs being used for programming might be told “write a class that passes these unit tests” and respond by just hardcoding the values being checked in the tests. Just absurd “solutions” to the tasks they’re asked to hallucinate about
If you ever want a simple neovim config I’d happily give you something to start with for your use case
The real difficulty comes in learning the keybinds and built in features lol
I mean Bella ciao is an antifascist song, I’ve never heard it outside of that context. But I see your point I’m just not plugged in enough to know nick Fuentes use of the phrase