Mossy Feathers (She/They)

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Cake day: July 20th, 2023

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  • Because you need something to be happy about otherwise you’ll lose all hope, forget what you’re fighting for and die from apathy.

    For an example: I live in Texas and, being trans myself, have a lot of trans friends. Yet, last night we had a housewarming party for one of them who recently moved within the city to be closer to her boyfriend. Instead of sitting there having a group meltdown session, which would have been a relatively reasonable thing to do, all things considering, we played drinking games and cuddled for hours (furries are very cuddly). We had a lot of fun and ultimately we all left the party significantly happier than when we got there (at least I did, anyway).

    I have more hope for the future now than I did before Trump won the election. Why? Because even if civilization collapses and we return to the dark ages, I’ll know where to go to be with my favorite people. I’ll know that we’ll be forging for food and searching for safe places to stay together. You have to find your spark in the darkness and then nurture it to become a flame to keep you warm in troubling times. That’s why they’re celebrating. They’re feeding their flames so they can remember what’s worth living for.








  • Regarding 196:

    Dunno, didn’t really use it on reddit tbh. That’s why I associate it strongly with blahaj.zone.

    Regarding Dragon rider:

    Sigh You’re right, I fixed it. In my defense, I was actually trying to avoid directly referencing drag and drag’s pronouns not because I think drag is invalid but because I didn’t want to distract from the fact that people were intentionally misgendering drag because they believed drag’s gender/pronouns were invalid and that drag’s dickish behavior excused them from having to use drag’s pronouns. I was concerned that using drag’s neopronouns would cause people to have a knee-jerk reaction, which was why I was referring to drag as “the troll”.

    Regarding your mental health:

    Honestly, that’d kinda kill half the reason I use Lemmy: as a news aggregate. Furthermore, people here have too much time on their hands and find drama wherever they can. I used to think blåhaj.zone would be fairly free from drama in a generally leftist space; after all leftists should understand that queer instances and communities are generally best left to queer people, right? Yet that hasn’t stopped people from trying to start drama regarding the main queer instance.


  • Way too many people subscribe to the idea of “if I don’t hear about it then it isn’t happening.” No, bitch, it’s happening, and it’s a hell of a lot worse than you think. It’s the only way I can imagine that people truly, unironically believe that LGBT people, especially trans people, are just “overreacting”.

    Or to put it another way, they’re the kinda people who’d unironically believe that a tree doesn’t make a sound when it falls in the forest, and then get pissed off when a physicist tells them that the tree makes a sound no matter what.


  • Something about 196 being on a non-queer instance feels wrong. I can’t explain it. Maybe it’s because there are a lot of queer-positive posts on 196? Not sure. Meh, whatever. I think I have a vague idea of why they’re moving away and quite honestly, if they want to bend to people wanting to stir shit, then maybe we’re better off without them.

    (Iirc the gist of it is that there was a troll who claimed to be “dragon gender” or something (which included that drag’s pronouns were “drag”). Drag said a lot of nasty shit, stirred up drama, etc. People decided that was a good excuse to misgender drag and become the arbiters of what a “proper gender” is. People misgendering drag got banned, then got pissy and cried about it. In the meantime, drag was also banned at that point, it was mainly people stirring shit at that point. I’m pretty sure 196 is moving away from blähaj.zone because afaik Ada takes a zero tolerance stance on intentionally misgendering people; regardless of whether or not someone’s a troll.)

    Quite honestly I’m kinda at the point where I’m considering quitting Lemmy entirely. Between the drama, doomposting, trolls and increase in general dickishness, it’s honestly getting really bad for my mental health.