Abuse as a child is one of the hardest things to go through, and psychological abuse alone is incredibly destructive. You did great getting away from that and working on the problems your mum caused. I’m glad you survived it

And for comedy value I’m also replying from my other account

That’s rough mate. Youve both driven so far, taken so much of the day up and have to do it tomorrow. You’re not being you right now, you’re always organised and on top and this isn’t you. Chronically disorganised people have strategies in place to stop these kind of things, but you’ve never needed to do that.

Peri is rough, and it’s not talked about enough. If women get old enough we go through it but we don’t talk about it. It really is hard.

I’ve not had as many good ones as I’d like! I had one in 6th form who really worked hard for me, he sorted loads of course based issues I had and fought for me. He had no agenda he was just doing the right thing and nobody else would have worked as hard as him

Haha now there’s an idea

Yep it’s charged just need the right inspiration to come along haha

Yes and it isn’t asking a question its passing a judgement. It puts the ownership on the victim not the perp

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Yes and abusive men often seem like they’re just about to change. It’s difficult because they make it so hard to leave, and leaving is the most dangerous time in domestic abuse

For those at work the news article is here.

This is a really sad case. Men like this target their victims carefully and often go for vulnerable people. It can be a grooming process, and they slowly build a cage round her so she can’t get out. Her and her baby deserved better.

I think you make a really good point about men often not changing. Abusive men tend to be totally selfish and don’t accept they’re wrong, making them resistant to change. Dysfunctional men often just don’t do the work they need to do to function well. Many men just ignore the issue and hope it goes away.

Patriarchy really damages men. Showing emotion and getting MH support is seen as weakness. Abusive men have unrealistic expectations so are never truly happy. It destroys so much.

Thanks we do sometimes miss them, please report the ones from men so we can tell the users

I think she’d love that I do lot for charity and stuff. She’d love my house, hair and like lots of my clothes. She’d have mixed feelings about me not being in touch with my family.

Regarding my sexuality… I think she’d probably shriek that she’s straight and hide under the duvet. So I don’t think I’ll mention that…

Hey noride thanks for your amusing comment! We’re a women’s only community so unless you are female/non binary please don’t comment again 😊

I really helped a client this week, I spoke to her in a way she understood and helped her understand something.

Holy shit this woman is sensational! She didn’t just have a voice, she made sure she got that voice and used it to scream about other people’s needs. She stood up against regimes, practices, businesses and society to do right by women and kids.

I know I should like the adoption best, but I just love that she fought for workers rights. Women had fuck all power at the time, working class women even less. She fought for a group that were often illiterate, poorly educated and seen as beneath all others. She really was amaaaaazzzing

I’m glad you paid the tax if you didn’t I would have had no choice but to ban you

Yep kitty has spoken! Sofa it is

Oh home grown veggies are the best! Even a bad crop smashes anything from the supermarket. Really hope it’s going well!

I like HoD but it’s not mind blowing. Tbf game of thrones ended so badly the franchise is forever tainted…

I’m disabled too. By far the biggest issue for me is other people’s reactions to it

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