Historically, the misogyny was something women within the church were willing to put up with because it came with the promise of social stability. Husband as head of household was patronizing and belittling, but it meant husband as provider. The misogyny came with the trade off of a culture that emphasized men ensuring their families were taken care of, materially. Going back even further, women who couldn’t find a husband had the option via the church of entering a nunnery and having social stability that way.

However, shifts in the job market and more women having higher education degrees means women have more opportunity for self-sufficiency. At the same time, the rise of Christian nationalism has created an incel-informed culture within the men of the church that gives women a damned if you do, damned if you don’t choice. They get chastised and demonized if they have economic self-sufficiency for “taking” jobs away from men, but if they expect the traditional patronizing provider model then they’re greedy gold diggers looking to cynically use men. The misogyny has no trade offs now, so there’s little reason to stay in the church.