i’ve been real low in my earlier life like and have felt a certain… inclination towards incel-type thinking. my personal issues regarding sexuality and gender clearly run deeper than just “not getting any” and the unspoken societal expectations like “virginity”, more than just because none of my problems went away just by having real awkward sex a few times. that being said, my current partner and i feel safe to be ourselves around eachother and enjoy spending time together. so by personal and anectodal evidence i can concur that “the right person” holds some truth at least. but also i went through many years of therapy and medication, with multiple hospitalizations, for “my” problems, even though it is the society in which i grew that is crooked and sick, not me.